Surviving & Thriving After Heartbreak with Marilyn Devonish

Welcome to the introduction to the 6-part audio program with The NeuroSuccess Coach Marilyn Devonish. 

Module 0: Program Introduction

During the Intro Module I look at the beginnings of those 10 stages and share some things that you can do to move beyond them and navigate and surf the emotional waves.

I also want to share some of the survey results so that you can hear those other voices and I'll explain why I think that's so important.  

The results have been wonderfully insightful and enlightening, so thank you very much to everyone who has taken part. I really do appreciate it.

• Give you an overview of the 6 Modules from the full Programme.

• We’ll do a short exercise to start breaking down the pain.

• A few self-reflection and coaching questions.

Running Time: 106 minutes

For further information about the 6-part Audio Program, go to: https://bit.ly/healing-heartbreak-audio

Program Rationale

This audio coaching program is designed to help people going through what I went through because it can be a lonely, frustrating, confusing and physically and emotionally painful place to be.  

The overall Programme will guide you through the 10 stages to the PH and PN levels where the grass really is greener and you live in trust and joy as opposed to in fear of being hurt again and a place of closing your heart or self-defence, and I’ll explain and take you through those 10 Stages during the 6-Part Programme. 

To allow you to hear the voices of others who have been through the same thing, and not just one voice, but all 3. The voices of those who have been cheated on, the voices of those who have cheated, and the other man or women.

To help you get clarity and perspective and answer one of the biggest questions of all which is, as one of my survey respondents put it, the big fat WHY?

And of course where we can, to help you start to physically and emotionally heal; and I say physically because my finding out my partner has an affair coincided with me developing a thyroid problem and adrenal fatigue. I didn't see the connection of that until I was sat on a personal development training several years later and they talked about how a lack of expression can show up in the throat area. I was totally shocked because for the first 2 years of my partners affair I was so ashamed that I didn't speak about it or share it with anyone, I only told my sisters when he decided to move abroad and be with her and their baby (because he'd gotten her pregnant) and even then I lied because he wanted people to believe that we were going to be starting a new life abroad . . . . 

Long story and we'll get into the physical and emotional impacts during the 6 Part Program.

And one of the really big reasons why is so that you don’t ‘Anchor & Project’ your old relationship hurts into your current or future relationships because it so easy for those old memories, anchors and triggers to both consciously and unconsciously surface, and it might surprise you to know that this is something that can affect all 3 parties in the love triangle. [Survey Feedback from other ‘woman’]

Let me explain exactly what are we going to do in this module, and during the Surviving and Thriving After Heartbreak Programme. I've framed it up as affairs and that's our starting point because I know from my own experience and those of my clients over the past 17 years, that for many it can be a dark and lonely secret for all parties involved however heartbreak is heartbreak so this Programme will help you however it is that you got there.

During this Module I to touch on these areas. The reason I don’t want to stir things up too much is because this is a one off, whereas the 6-Part Programme is a continuation where we can come back and revisit things in more depth. 

Why this Program?

I wanted to share the things that really worked for me when I found myself first of all in the position where my partner had an affair, which was devastating, heart-breaking, and lonely, and also share what dealing with it was like, including the emotional games, some might say verging in narcissist behaviour traits, because as I transition out of spending large chunks of time doing private 1-2-1 work now felt like a good time to package this information up for those who might not have the opportunity to work with me more directly. 

I also share strategies and processes which have worked for the clients and couples I have coached and done therapy with over the past 22 years. 

A big why for me is so you don't keep repeating the same old patterns because one of the big things I noticed in my 23 years as a Coach and Therapist and working in this field is that people often take their relationship baggage with them from relationship to relationship and inadvertently dump and project their old crap onto current and future relationships and therein starts a version of groundhog day. I've seen people sabotage perfectly good relationships because they are responding to old triggers, anchors and memories, an reliving and even being mentally tortured by the ghosts of past relationships. 

At the time I thought I would never recover, and three years on I still hadn't. Using the tools, strategies, and processes shared here, I then had a complete TranceFormation within 6 weeks, and with my Breakthrough Coaching Clients, within 1-day. 

Who is This Program For?

I cover 3 aspects of this common yet not often spoken about love triangle. This program is design for:

Those whose partners have cheated on them.

Cheating partners who want to gain some insight and understanding about what is feels like to be on the receiving end and what your partners might need or require from you.

The 3rd person in the relationship: the ‘other man or woman’ in terms of understanding the role that they play and what it's like from their point of view. 

Those suffering heartbreak and struggling to get over the end of a relationship.

We also hear from, via the survey results, and discuss the voices of those who have been cheated on, and, from those who have had affairs. As one survey respondent put it:

“I was hoping my partner would not find out. It was only for a short period and not meant to be serious.”

Another respondent said:

“I didn’t know at the start, but it was purely physical lust. I loved how he touched me, and in some ways knowing that he wouldn’t have to stay was a comfort. I got my needs met without any responsibility.”

I know for myself in the beginning it felt like a one sided game, and that my partner who had the affair was just totally wrong. As I got deeper into personal development and looking at aspects of myself, I realised just how important it was to hear his voice in the healing process. 

I will share more of these gems of insight and break them down during The Programme. Thank you, thank you, thank you, to everyone who so generously shared these very private and deep aspects of themselves. I really do appreciate it, and I am sure that The Affair Programme participants will too. 

What Do We Cover During The 6-Part Program?

This 6-part audio program takes you on the journey through the tell-tale signs, the moment of discovery of the affair, gives you answers to some of those burning questions which can eat away at your heart and soul if they go unaswered, how to pick up the shattered pieces and start to heal, and how you can move from just surviving heartbreak or an affair, to living your life from a place of trust, and thriving. 

Overview of Program Modules

Module 1 - Tell-Tale Signs & The Discovery & Revelation

How to separate the truth and lies and regain or maintain your sanity. What can do to ease the turmoil when you discover that your partner is having an affair? 

Module 2 – Answering the Unanswered & Burning Questions

How does it feel to be cheated on? What are the real reasons people cheat and have affairs? Why do people cheat and what do you really need or want to know? Exploring ‘The Reflection’ and shadow sides. 

Module 3 – Healing Heartbreak Processes

A chance to take stock, and explore how to stop the pain plus a guided Healing Process and Energy Clearing Work.

Module 4 – Picking Up the Pieces

What is it that has been shattered and broken and what can you do to heal and resolve that?

Module 5 – From Surviving to Thriving 

Strategies for picking up the pieces, and how to rebuild your confidence, self-esteem, and healthily move on with your life. 

Module 6 – Soul Healing

This experiential module provides a Soul Healing Process, plus elements chosen by participants that will most help them on the next stage of their journey. 

Bonus Module 1 – Inside the Mind of the Cheater

One of the big pieces for many in being able to move on is to really understand what is going on inside of the other person. This module will provide first-hand accounts from those who have cheated, been cheated on, and been the other man or woman. 

Bonus Module 2 – Soul Healing & Live Audience Choice

This experiential module will contain a Soul Healing Process plus elements that have been chosen by the participants in terms of what would most benefit them on the next stage of their journey.

There are 3-6 key themes included within each Module and each session comprises of information, insight, Coaching exercises, exploration and self-discovery, healing meditations, plus energy clearing work. Some of the content was also be shaped and driven by those who took part in the live coaching version, and was based upon their questions and real-life experiences.

For information about the full 6-part Audio Program, go to: https://bit.ly/healing-heartbreak-audio

Program Outcomes

This program is designed to:

Answer those questions that often swirl around in your head heart and psyche.

Get inside of the mind of each of the parties involved so that you have the much needed insight which can be the catalyst or a big key to moving on.

Rebuild your self-esteem and confidence if it has been knocked and shattered.

Make plans and provide more clarity on next steps.

Learn to trust again, both yourself and your own judgement and other people.

Provide strategies, tools, and processes to help you feel better.

Heal and open your heart again.

Running Time: 103 minutes

There are 3-6 key themes included within each Module and each session comprises of information, insight, Coaching exercises, exploration and self-discovery, healing meditations, plus energy clearing work. Some of the content was also be shaped and driven by those who took part in the live coaching version, and was based upon their questions and real-life experiences.

To join us for the full 6-part Audio Program, go to: https://bit.ly/healing-heartbreak-audio