The hard truth is expecting something does NOT mean it will happen.
When you are triggered you regress emotionally and believe your thoughts can actually make something happen. Developmental psychologist Jean Piaget called this "magical" thinking. When things don't go your way you might FREAK out feeling disappointed and helpless.
This can show up in your parenting when you mistakenly believe that expecting your children to behave the way you want will actually make them behave that way.
Yep! The problem in my home was that my daughter didn't get the memo that told her she was here to meet my expectation. HA!
Did you have any of these expectations before parenting?
*my child would listen
*my child would do what I asked them to do
*my child would be on time
*my child would be responsible
Oftentimes we set ourselves up for the greatest disappointments, by living into the future of what we E X P E C T might happen in our parenting journey. We can imagine all the ways our kiddos just might turn out- based on our cultural conditioning- if they don't get a handle on their behaviors.
But what if you could explore the feelings that are driving those very behaviors right here and now and truly be in the present moment with them? Would you notice their joy? Would you see their curiosity? Would you be able to support them in their helplessness?
This is exactly what I want to talk about in the upcoming Purejoy Popup call -
What Did You Expect?
I'd love for you to join me-
Follow the link here to register.
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