1 Minute Solutions: How to Stop Struggling With Your Teen

“This is the best approach, I’ve seen for resolving conflicts. It’s logical, it’s sensible and it works.”

The Today Show

As a parent, have you ever felt….

“I’m so exhausted and getting nowhere with my teen.”

“I’m really frustrated. I know something is going on with my kid and all I can get are one word answers.”

“I can’t even get their attention, let alone listen to me.” I feel so disconnected.”

“I’m fed up. I don’t know what else I can do.”

You are not alone.

From many years of my experience working with parents, what I have learned is…when parents are in pain, they want solutions- not theory. Stop Struggling approach is based on that belief. What I have come to realize is that most parents aren’t even fully conscious of the number one obstacle that stands in their way of raising a responsible and well-adjusted teenager. They are so immersed in their daily conflicts they don’t see the negative consequences of their daily discipline methods- from grounding to bribery- and end up feeling as if nothing works. Out of frustration and a dash of desperation, parents eventually cave in to their teen’s demands, throw their hands and declare defeat. Then guilt overcomes them and the vicious cycle begins all over again.  

I call this yo-yo parenting….moving from a policeman to a pushover.  

Parents squander all their energy and feel like bad parents even though they want only the best for their teen. They want their teens to reach their full potential, be the best versions of themselves and become a responsible and well-adjusted adult.  

One day when I was handing one of these parents- who only want the best for their teens- a copy of my book, Stop Struggling With Your Teen, she stopped me in my tracks and said the following, “Evonne, I’m always in my car and I want to plug in when my kids plug in. I call myself an “uber parent”. I need to able to hear what you have to say-not just read it.” 

That’s when I decided to put my over 30 years of experience to use and develop this Stop Struggling With Your Teen audio program and Resolution Without Blame companion workbook.

In this new Stop Struggling with Your Teen audio program, you will learn the time tested TRUST method that provide you with immediate results and long range changes that will transform your relationship with your teen. You will establish the foundations of a respectful, loving relationship with your teen.  

What Is the Stop Struggling Method?

 A 3 stage parenting action plan that is built on the idea that conflict can be the catalyst for change.

1. Take charge of Your Attitude- a simple change of perspective that ensures you empower both yourself and your teen.

2.Recognize who owns the problem- the one key point that provides a clear path to resolution to any conflict situation with your teen.

3. U se less talk, more action- the most workable approach to establish your credibility and set boundaries with your teen.

4. Step in when necessary- the proactive plan to resolve major issues in your teen’s life. 

5. Take a stand- the 4 essential steps to be heard, get what you rightfully want, and act in a respectful no-nonsense manner. 

This method will help you strike that delicate balance between setting limits and encouraging independence with your teen. You will have the tools to 

*Stop power struggles with your teen without giving in.

*Get through to your teen in critical situations where a bad choice can lead to devastating outcomes.

*Raise a responsible, well-adjusted adult. 

What Are Others Say About The Stop Struggling Approach?

*I’m not sure my son would be in one piece today if it were not for the Stop Struggling With Your Teen approach. I might have strangled him with the chord of his Xbox or buried him alive under the junk in his car.  

Cindy S

*After using Stop Struggling approach, I lost 15 lbs of guilt.

Jodi S

*If you’ve tried everything from guidance to bribery and nothing works, you are ready for Stop Struggling With Your Teen.”

Woman’s Day

*A complete program is mapped out….rich with examples on major difficulties. 

Toronto Sun

*Clear, concise and easy to follow suggestions. I found the ideas immensely helpful and effective, with tips for empowering your children by expressing confidence in their ability to take on more responsibility in the very areas that most drive you nuts.

Rita L

*Your conclusion of allowing children to experience the successes and failures is something that my parents didn't allow me to do.  I always wanted to be able to do that for my children but didn't know how.   To know that they will grow, have self-respect, self -reliance and be happy is so important. 
[Your method] has been life changing.  

Aga M

If you want to 

*reduce arguing

*resolve conflict without blame

*regain credibility of your words

*reconnect with your teen 

If you want to improve your teen’s ability to 

*negotiate and compromise

*problem solve and initiate action

*act as a responsible person

*resolve conflict without blame

*learn from their mistakes as well as relish their accomplishments, 

If you want your teen to gain

*self confidence

*self-reliance

*self-respect

then this program is for you. 

Who Should Take This Course?

Parents of 9-18 year olds. 

Parents who are willing to take a few risks for the sake of learning some new parenting approaches that are potentially life changing.

Parents who can keep a sense of humor…after all you are raising pre-teens and teens!