Many give up even without trying. Some people postpone it for the future that is not guaranteed to anyone. This episode shares the wisdom that helps you break your fears and negative thoughts. This helps you in building the right mindset that is ready to take action and start anything you want.

Listen to the episode and free yourself from the evil mindset that is killing your dreams. Learn what's important to grow mentally and start well. Learn from your mistakes and experiences to grow well in life.

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Truth is something that keeps our spirit alive. Speaking truth may scare you, but once spoken, you get so much of relief. Your teachers, parents, and society taught you to speak the truth since your childhood. But why people still speak lies?

The reason behind why many people speak lies and feel fake comfort is, they learned it from their parents, teachers, and family. Isn’t this so strange?

The people who taught us right are not right, and from their actions, they are teaching the opposite of what is being taught in words. They teach us to be ethical and follow morals. But it’s very sad that they don’t follow them in their lives, which makes their teachings useless.

The reason they don’t follow what they teach is they are scared. They fear speaking truth and the problems that bring into one’s life. But the truth is powerful, and speaking truth is rightful.

The reasons people don’t speak the truth are:

• They are scared of judgment from people.
• They think they may grow enemies.
• They think their truth may hurt others.
• Fear of losing something.
• The list goes on as people have their own reasons.

But whatever your reason may be. Speaking lies make you suffer inside forever. You can’t escape that guiltiness. This guiltiness haunts you until your death. Just remember the last time you lied to someone and did you feel good? No, right? Deep inside you felt bad but you spoke because of your fear or you thought you don’t have a choice.

This way now people are getting comfortable speaking lies and that’s becoming an unbreakable habit that burns your soul and makes you guilty forever.

Speak the truth and see how you feel? Initially, you may not feel good before speaking. Once you spoke, you would feel so relief and you won’t have any guilty feeling and you will be proud of yourself for doing the right thing.

“Speaking the truth gives you freedom and speaking the lie makes you a slave.”

You choose what you want. If you want to be free forever, speak the truth and if you want to be a slave, speak lies. You may gain enemies and problems in your life by speaking the truth. But at the same time, you gain respect and peace, which are more important for a fulfilled life.

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“When you have more free time, use it well to build your mind and body. Don’t waste it on things that make you lazy and desperate.”

Most people may be desperate and in fear because of this ongoing lockdown. Most people are scared and worried about their jobs, businesses, and their lives. This lockdown time maybe like a prison time but you have still freedom in this prison to do things you want.

Can your fear and worry help you fix anything?

No, right? Instead, they take away your present-day peace and happiness. Stop fearing and worrying about the future. Think of how you can become better and get ready for upcoming difficulties that you think may happen in your life.

“It’s absolute foolishness to dwell and suffer about your future that you can never see and control now.”

Most of us have left many things in our lives without pursuing or doing them as we didn’t have time. But the wonderful thing is, you have time now. You can use this valuable time to do things that you always thought of doing in your lifetime.

It may be anything which may include singing, dancing, playing a musical instrument, spending time with your family, learning a skill. Don’t make this time a bad time. Instead, make as many happy and valuable moments as possible.

There are several areas of life that need improvement. Spend time on those areas and learn the skills and gain as much knowledge as possible. Prepare for new jobs and take courses and lessons online. Grow more skills for your existing job and stand out from the competition.

Here are some ideas you can make use of in your free time at home for self-improvement.

• Pursue a hobby: You may always want to have a new hobby that you didn’t pursue because of a lack of time. But now you have time. It may be singing, dancing, reading, writing, painting, etc. You know what you love. So start learning that hobby. Sometimes these hobbies can bring out your talents and help you start side hustles that make you money.

“Find three hobbies you love: One to make money, one to keep you in shape and one to be creative.”

• Take online lessons: Take any classes that interest you. There are several free and paid courses online. You can choose from a wide variety of courses available on the internet. Choose that’s interesting to you and learn as much as possible about that topic. You can use blogs, podcasts, and other sources to dig deeper into the subject and learn more.
• Spend time with family: You won’t have much time to spend with family as you stay occupied with your work every day. You spend very less time with your family and they are more valuable. Spend time with them. Share your experiences. Listen to them. Play some interesting games with them. The most important thing is to make memories that last.
• Catch up with your buddies: It may be very rare you spoke to your friends and relatives who you care about. You can call them and share your life and listen to them. You can discuss many things and you can remember your old memories.
• Watch inspiring movies: Don’t watch everything. Watch, that makes a difference. Watch something inspiring and that helps you feel good. If you don’t know what to watch, you can google for the best inspirational movies online. Watch them with your family or friends at home. They add value to your thoughts and life.
• Do something new: There are many things we didn’t do. There are things we ignored. Think about such things and do at least one thing and see how it feels. For example, you cooked nothing in your life. Search for your favorite food recipe and try cooking it on your own.
• Meditate and exercise: Most people don’t have time in everyday life to do them. But they are useful to us. Think about this human body as a machine. If you keep using this machine without giving it rest or without fixing the repairs, will the machine work effectively? No. Right? The same way our human body is like a machine. You need to repair it by meditation for mind and exercise for the body. Do mediation exercise whenever you want. Don’t think about time. It may be morning or evening as the important thing is to get started.

There may be many more ideas of your own. You can do them. Don’t stress yourself so much. Start small and make sure you are loving what you are doing. Take naps if you need rest. Then keep doing things in your free time and improve yourself.

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“Education system is ancient. Most parts are outdated and it’s difficult to update everything and everywhere manually. It consumes a lot of time. But through the internet, it’s easy and effective too.”

This online education system has its own uses and flaws. But if this education system is implemented, it brings more effective learning into play. A regular school is good as direct interactions happen. That’s the place people find friends and life experiences which are very important in one’s life. Other than academics, everything that happens in college works well for everyone.

But these academics will not work equally to everyone, which is sad. If we implement the online education system along with the normal system. It helps us continue classes without fearing about unexpected holidays that saves teaching plan.

The benefits of this system are many and it saves time and energy in many ways and there will be time for improving the systems and methods that will help to update this outdated education system and it helps students grow an interest in learning better.

• Learning for teachers: You can complete everything on time and even teachers get Knowledge about technology. There are many teachers who don’t anything about updating technology that can make a huge impact on education. Once the online education system comes into play, it becomes imperative for them to learn about how to use this technology.
• Learning becomes interesting: There is no need of worrying about running for classes or sitting around four walls listening to the lectures. You can take classes anywhere. Even if you are on vacation, you can take classes, which is wonderful. You can learn from anywhere in this world.
• Less authority and more friendliness: As teachers are teaching online, their authority will no more work. You have the freedom to learn in the way you want. Therefore, building more friendliness happens than more authority. This makes students and teachers feel comfortable with each other.
• Keep updated: You don’t need to just learn about what’s existing and outdated. As you all will have access to the internet, you can dig deeper to find more about any topic and even teachers have to dig deeper to teach you. Teaching and learning become interesting as we are getting updated knowledge that can be applied in our lives at that moment.
• Recap anytime: If those lectures are recorded and saved. They will be useful for you to refer to them anytime. Students need not worry about missing the lectures any more and teachers can Livestream their recorded videos. You need not compromise with your teaching plans anymore.
• More choices and options: Due to lack of time, students are given limited options to learn. But the online system makes it possible to choose and learn unlimited options, as there will not be any problem with time.
• More communication methods: Students can get into touch with teachers or professors easily, and they don’t feel shy anymore to ask doubts and questions. They can use chat online or email if they can’t ask directly. Somehow their doubts will be cleared and all answers will be answered and this helps students learn more effectively.
• Learn technical skills: Both students and teachers will learn technical skills well. This helps students especially to keep updated with technology, and this helps them in their jobs.
• Realtime learning: Students will learn more updated knowledge. This way they are ready to apply what they learn in their jobs and lives. This helps students grow an interest in learning and growing.

Even though there are several benefits, the beginning will have unevenness. If you can make it even, it gives students a way to learn effectively, which is the outcome we need.

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“Problems happen in everyone's life, and how we respond to them changes everything. What looks like a problem to you may not be a problem at all to others and Someone’s problem may not be a problem at all for you. Your perception can change everything.”

Just remember the biggest problem you have faced in your life. Did you overcome it or ran away from it? If you faced it, How did you face it? What if the same problem persists in your life? Do you still consider it a big problem?

If you have overcome your problem, you must have learned the process too. If the same problem persists, you won’t run away or you won’t look at it as a big problem. Instead, you say, It’s easy to solve, and it's just a small problem.

If you had run away from your problem. You will still feel the problem as a big and difficult problem that’s impossible to solve. Your action towards a problem changes your perception.

“Don’t run away from your problems, face them and that’s how you build the right perception and self-confidence.”

No one can escape problems. Problems are challenges that we face in our lives to reach different levels of life. If you don’t accept challenges, you will dwell and suffer in one place forever.

How do problems look like? Does anyone know? Does anyone saw them ever with their eyes?

No. Problems are thoughts in our heads. We can’t see them directly. We can’t touch them. We can only feel them. What we can’t see can’t be measured. But we give a size to them as big and small with our false perception.

In simple words, what suffers us more is a big problem and what suffers us less is a small problem and this is how many people perceive a problem. Any new problem you never faced or know looks like a big problem, but any problem you faced or know looks small.

There is no problem without a solution and don’t expect all solutions to work well for a problem.

See the sizes of these lines that represent problems. P1 line is small than P2 and P3 lines. That’s a small problem in comparison. But P1 seems to be a big problem when it’s new and it’s the only line you have.

If P2 comes into play P1 becomes small in our mind. If P3 comes into play P2 becomes small in perception. Awareness of these problems and facing them gives you lessons that show these problems as small and easy to solve.

But the truth is all problems are equal and you can face them. Facing them makes them small and running from them makes them big and difficult to solve.

“Stop running and start facing your problems.”

Your perception and the right mindset help you solve any problem easily. Believe in yourself and believe in time, as it heals everything, as your life goes on. Don’t give power to your problems by perceiving them as big. Make them nothing by accepting them and solving them.

The more difficult the problem, the more is the chance to learn a better lesson in your life. The right mindset solves most of your problems in your head itself. Grow the right mindset and attitude.

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“Life is simple. Our thoughts make it complex, and there are different meanings to life by different people. Understand the meaning in simple words and realize the simplicity of your life.”

Understand your Life in 3 simple words.

The three words are: Born, Contend and Die.

Life is a long journey explained in different ways by different philosophers. It’s a beautiful journey for a few people and it’s a horrible journey for some other people. Whatever its definition may be. The important thing is — don’t forget to live because there may be no life after death.

Live the present moment like a hero of your life. Let’s know life in three simple words we listen mostly during our daily routine. The first word is — Born

We know birth is the start of life for every entity on this planet. It’s a great occasion, I mean you have just arrived in this world. It doesn’t happen easily. After passing complex processes in the mother's womb, you have just entered the world receiving welcome wishes from your loved ones around you.

They are thrilled for you and nothing can replace their happiness, anyway. You may cry when you are just born, but people around you are smiling and celebrating your arrival. It’s a great success for your parents and family. They love you so much and believe me the love in them is very unconditional.

The second word is — Contend.

You grow, that’s what happens after a few days after your birth, and the growth will continue and here the real unexplainable things happen. At this phase, you have to contend in this world to make your survival possible.

You should learn things and perform. Face hard situations. Earn a living. Build relationships. Succeed. Fail and you have to learn from your failures. Manage things. Believe me, in this stage you cannot have pure unconditional love from people around you, which you got in the first stage.

You are on your own here. Believe in you and things you do. In this stage, Somehow manage people stick to you. Even if they show their conditional love. It’s okay. Manage people with your unconditional love and May you get the least back.

It’s a drama time. It’s in your hands whether or not to perform well. Learn the necessary skills and perform well. Your performance makes you a hero or a villain or nothing in people’s minds.

The third word is — Die.

Everyone has to die someday, which is a painful truth and not all care about death that may occur in the future, at some point of unknown time. It just happens like unexplained magic that is you just die and you take nothing accomplished here on earth.

People around you cry for your loss and at this stage, people love you which is unconditional and therefore they cry or show their sadness for your life.

Things to remember: “People love you unconditionally, during your birth and death. Then in the middle of these two things, you just have to manage people, so that you get little love and survive.”

“Birth and death are natural”. But Birth is a beautiful lie and death is a painful truth which you have to believe in all your life.

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“Many say that you should have a purpose. They tell you to find your purpose. Finding your purpose makes life easy. Finding purpose is difficult for many. But who are successful in finding their purpose already met simplicity in their lives.”

Have you found your purpose? Are you still trying to find your purpose? Are you wasting time finding your purpose? What is purpose actually?

Who already found your purpose in life. Congratulations. There are many who are still struggling to find their purpose in life. Having a purpose makes your life simple. But many don’t accept their purpose, even though they found it because of fear. Your purpose may be just cleaning. It’s alright if you enjoy the work and importantly if you feel you are contributing something to this world and making a difference.

Most people find their purposes in unexpected ways. Even if you look at people who became great found their purpose or passion of their lives in unexpected ways and situations.

Finding purpose artificially may fail you. I hope you have come across several methods from books, the internet or people. But all these methods are vain if they are forcing you to find your passion or purpose artificially. Maybe some methods worked for you, but they don’t work for the most.

Your passion or purpose need not be so big. It must satisfy you. It must make you happy all your life. If you imagine doing what you are doing right now after 20 or 30 years. If this makes you happy then keep doing it instead of worrying about finding your purpose or passion in your life.

Everyone doesn’t need a purpose to live. There are people who enjoy what they do, and that becomes their purpose and passion for their life. These people need not waste time finding purpose or passion.

There are people who are not satisfied with their work and life they are living and they feel they are missing something in their lives and these people have to find something that makes them feel alright and happy.

The purpose or passion doesn’t depend on money and therefore who are connecting their purpose or passion with money should stop it. I hope you know people who are rich but aren’t happy and I hope even you know who are poor but they are happy.

Happiness lies in the way we think and live in our lives. Money is a necessity, but it can’t give you everything in life. There are things that money can’t buy and are more valuable. If your purpose or passion is linked with money, it’s hard to get fulfillment in life.

You may make more money, but you can’t make more fulfillment. This is the reason you need to find whether you are enjoying what you are doing in your life.

How much you may try? You may fail to find your purpose in life. The truth is the purpose or passion finds us. We only need to keep looking for it by keeping our existing jobs or businesses. Don’t give up your work you are doing for searching for passion or purpose.

Sometimes your work may help you meet your purpose or passion. There are people who found their purpose this way. Don’t be scared to accept your purpose or passion even though it’s small. Don’t worry about others. Your happiness is more important in your life than others opinions and judgments.

The truth is, no one is good at their passion or purpose in life. After they found what they love, they worked on themselves to improve at what they love and that’s how they became successful in life.

If you are loving what you do, then learn to do it better every day. This is your passion or purpose. Make sure you will be happy with this work till the end of your life. If you are not enjoying the work, then find what you love. If you know it, change your job or else keep doing what you are doing and continue your search for what you love.

Tips to find your purpose:

Don’t stick to one thing. Keep doing several things and experiment. You may be enjoying one thing more from all of this and check whether it’s your passion.

Don’t stick your passion or purpose with money. Stick it with permanent happiness that will be forever in your life.

Check with your interests. If you have interests, find out what you love the most and this could be your purpose or passion.

Don’t waste time worrying about finding purpose. Learn to live and enjoy this moment and let your passion or purpose find you.

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“Most people try to impress others and they fail. They become unhappy because impressing others is not a rightful thing. Being YOU, without changing for others and impressing yourself is the rightful thing you have to do, to find long-lasting happiness in life.”

Three simple steps to impress yourself.

1. Don’t impress others: Most people live all their lives to impress others who even they don’t know. This is how they fail in their lives and live a desperate life. Don’t impress others. Don’t dress so well to impress others. Don’t buy expensive things to impress others. In simple words, don’t live just for impressing others who even don’t care. Instead, you can live your life on your own terms. Impress yourself. Buy things that are useful. Dress in comfortable wear. In simple words, live your life in the way you love to.
2. Do new things: Don’t limit yourself to a boring life. There are many things in human life you need to experience. New experiences add valuable lessons to life. Your right perception and the right mindset are built on new experiences and adventures that you take in life. It may be risky. But take it. It may be frightening. Do it. Face challenges. Learn better. Grow faster. This makes living interesting and you can feel proud of your life.
3. Help others: If someone is in need, help them. Doing a favor to others will make you feel good. Don’t wait for someone to ask you for help. If you know someone needs help. Help them unconditionally, expecting nothing in return. Give a little to charity. Give some food to the people living on the footpath. It may be any little help you can afford to do. Do it immediately. Helping others will make you feel great, and it adds a lot of value to your life.

Follow these simple steps and impress yourself every day and live a life that is beyond false limits built in your mind by you, family or society.

“A Self-impressed life is a free life where you have joy and happiness.”

People who understand you and love you will stay in your life even though you don’t impress them. People who don’t love you or understand you well may not stay in your life and it’s okay.

But remember: BE YOURSELF and don’t lose yourself in any situation of life. Stand strong and live better.

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“Most people fail, not because of not trying. They fail because they quit so fast. They give up easily on their goals and dreams and that’s how they really become failures.”

Every one of you wants to start something in your life. You want to make a difference. You want to do something great and you want to build something huge and you want to bring your dreams into reality.

Most people quit with the ideas in their minds. They don’t take any step forward to build their dreams into reality. These people have several excuses and reasons that are useless. These people kill their dreams in their heads.

There are people who take a forward step to make their dreams into reality. But many people quit so fast because of situations or lack of support or lack of patience. Whatever the reason may be, Quitting is bad.

You may come through difficulties and you may have to face risks. But they are worthy of the journey to success. You may fall and fail. It’s okay. You may go slow if conditions are not right. You may go fast if conditions support you. The important thing is never to stop your journey.

If you look at the great and successful people. You find that they never quit. They failed several times, and they tried several times again and again. They have gone through difficult times. They got hurt so much. They broke, and they suffered. But they never quit.

The reason is they believe strongly in their idea, or belief and they sacrificed everything for their dreams. They sacrificed their comfort, family time and some important things in their life to build their dreams into reality. They never lost their patience, and they always stayed motivated.

You should understand that failures and difficulties come in your way and they must be faced. You can’t run away from them and you can’t give up your dream because of them.

“Never give up because of the difficult situations in your life. They strengthen you and gives you courage when you face them.”

“Never give up because of failures and believe that they are part of your success.”

Never give up because of your excuses. They kill your success.

You may fall again and again. Don’t lose hope. Get up and move on. This is how life is testing your strength. Remember to stay strong in all situations of life. Stay motivated all the time. Don’t care about other’s judgment.

Remember why you started? You need to have the same motivation that you had when you started. This helps you move on without the thoughts of quitting. Believe in your ideas strongly and remember great things take time. So be patient and learn and enjoy the process.

There are three important things you need to have, to gain success without giving up. These are qualities that successful have used in their life to get success.

1. Consistency: You need to grow consistency in you. Most people work on their dreams seriously at the beginning, every day taking care of every small detail. As time moves on, they don’t maintain this consistency. They don’t look at their dream the same way they looked at the beginning. This may be because of loss of interest or loss of support or because of no expected results. Be consistent and believe in the process and learn from your failures and difficulties that come in your way.
2. Discipline: If you love something. Do it every day. Don’t do it whenever you feel like doing. Get up and work on your dreams every day even though you are tired or feeling boring. Don’t do it often. Do it regularly and have a proper time to work on your goals. What you do everyday matters to your success and what you do often may bring you failures.
3. Perseverance: Never give up because of difficulties. They are part of success. They are the barriers you have to overcome to get success. If you give up because of hard situations, you never get success and whatever you did for your success goes in vain. You should only care about achieving irrespective of difficult situations or problems that may come. You must be strong than your problems, and that makes it easy for you to overcome them.

If you grow these three qualities in you. Success comes to you soon or later. Never think of quitting as sometimes you are only one step ahead to meet your success. If you quit, you will get lost in your journey and face regrets in your life.

You get success when you believe in you and your idea so strongly and moving forward without loss of enthusiasm and motivation. Have patience. You can fall and get hurt. You can cry. You can suffer. But you shouldn’t give up and this strength you gain helps you gain the huge success that makes you feel proud of.

Never give up. Try again and again, and keep moving ahead.

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“Life isn’t fair to anyone. It doesn’t matter what level you may be. Life will always be unfair, and there is a reason it is unfair. Understanding the reason and realizing that life is unfair helps you enjoy your life.”

Do you know anyone whose life is fair? Even if you know, is it true? Is your life fair? What is meant by life is fair? Why life isn’t fair to everyone?

Life isn’t fair to anyone and still, most people act like everything is fair in their lives and they try to smile every day and that’s a courageous act. There is something in everyone’s life that is missing and it’s the cause of worry and unhappiness.

Even your life isn’t fair as you also have something to get in your life. Life isn’t perfect. It has different flaws in different people. Some flaws are temporary and some are permanent. Few people accept their flaws and move on and few suffer because of their flaws, blaming life isn’t fair to them.

But remember, these flaws make people unique. This unfairness in life makes people hopeful. If life has given everything you wished without trying on your own.

“Your flaws make you unique. Accept them and transform them if it improves your life.”

What’s the purpose of life? What would you work for or fight for in life? How would you be active and happy in your life?

That’s the reason why life is unfair. Unfairness is not a punishment. It’s a gift for people who understand that life isn’t fair and they have to make it fair as much as possible.

They know unfairness in life is giving them a task to accomplish in their lives. They are active because of unfairness in their lives. They are not complaining. They are enjoying and accomplishing.

If you accept and habituated to unfairness in life and dwell in it. You will suffer so much every day. If you face your unfairness and do something to make it fair, you will learn important lessons that help you grow into a wise human being.

There are several things we get habituated with every day. Don’t accept life is unfair and you can’t do anything about it. Instead, grow hope and confidence to change your mindset and work on the unfairness in your life. This helps you become strong and understand life better.

This unfairness in life is like darkness in everyone’s life and some are scared of it and some learned to enjoy it by looking at it differently. When it’s night, the entire world looks like it’s covered with darkness, which is not true.

People who are desperate about life see darkness and the people who are hopeful look at the stars in the sky that are shining and enjoy the beauty of darkness.

“Don’t get habituated to unfairness in life if you don’t want to suffer. Try to transform that unfairness to fairness, to live a happy life.”

In the same way, people who are desperate are scared of life when it is unfair and people who are hopeful enjoy life more when it is unfair.

You need to realize that unfairness in life gives you hope and work to stay active without becoming lazy and losing yourself, which is more harmful than unfairness in life.

“A fair life is more harmful than an unfair life.”

Realize that darkness in life shows light. Without darkness (unfairness) you will never know the importance of light. You may be desperate about your life now. But moving on in your life will help you remove this desperateness.

You may have asked yourself — “Why isn’t my life fair? Why is this happening to me? Why am I suffering from these problems?” and what happened after these thoughts? Did you feel happy? No.

Instead, you would have questioned differently — “Why isn’t my life fair and how can I fix it? This is happening to me and there is a lesson I Can learn from this situation and I Am getting so many problems and it’s okay they make me strong.” and thus you would have understood unfairness is also important in life.

Realize that bad times and unfairness in life will not be there forever. They all pass away like moving clouds. The important thing is to stay strong in all situations without losing hope. This is how you prove life that you are stronger than your problems, flaws, and unfairness in life.

“Remember to enjoy even dark times of your life. They have valuable lessons for a joyful life.”

Life is not fair to everyone, and it’s alright. Realize this unfairness is useful for growth and success and move ahead.

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You need to learn to build yourself properly. You may be at the beginning or you are broken and you need to rebuild yourself. Building yourself up is very necessary for living a happy life.

Don’t give up hope. You can become better by working on yourself for a while. You need great determination and self-confidence to build yourself. Be hopeful and follow the process.

There are two parts in this process of building you up:

Mindset:

1. (i) You need to realize that you can’t change your past. Accept this and move on. Don’t dwell and suffer in the past that’s gone and stop worrying about the future which is yet to come.
2. (ii) You still have this life and you still have a choice to live and grow mentally. There are people who are wishing for at least one day to live their lives. You are lucky you still have life.
3. (iii) Find inspiration from people who built themselves. If you need proof, you can research about people who built themselves from nothing. You can find them from the internet, books or other resources.

Once you build your mind. You can use this simple, and powerful method to build yourself, and this takes time and effort. So, be patient and work on yourself.

Method:

1. Learn and Observe: Find what you want to buildup in you. It may your physical body or a strong mind or it may be a skill. Whatever it may be, you have several resources available easily at your fingertips in this modern world. You can exercise every day to build your body. You can do meditation to build your mind. You can find many resources on the skill you want to develop easily through books, courses or coaching from experts. Make a daily plan and this helps you stay disciplined. Be consistent and don’t skip any day. It may be difficult at the beginning, and you may have to suffer pain. It’s okay. Don’t give up and keep working on yourself. Observe what’s happening around you. Listen more than you speak. Observe people’s actions more. Observing helps you learn naturally.
2. Practice and Apply: Whatever you are learning and observing in your life, practice and apply in your real life. It doesn’t matter if you read 1000 books or taken 100 courses if you don’t put what you learned into practice, it's useless. Practice every day. Apply when you are ready. Gain expertise and don’t be an amateur. You may commit mistakes in the process, and it’s alright. Learn from your mistakes and don’t repeat them. Improve every day by practicing more and don’t tell any excuses and remember these excuses destroy you. If you are going through dark times, remember to stand strong and believe that dark times in life are temporary. Don’t give up building yourself whatever situations may come.
3. Result: (Success or Failure) If you succeed, congrats and keep it up. Even though you did everything correctly, the results may not be as expected and in such conditions, don’t lose hope. Don’t quit building yourself up. Remember that success may not happen in one go. Sometimes it takes several trials. You need to understand failures as part of your success. They are teaching you valuable lessons for a successful life and they help you build a strong mindset that’s necessary for building yourself so strong. Keep working until you succeed and don’t care about other’s judgment and opinion. Don’t give up because of situations. Prove to the life that you are stronger than your situations. Be patient and you will get what you want.
4. Repeat: Once you have built one thing you want. You may have other things to build in your life and apply the process. Stay motivated, and this helps you build yourself faster.

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“Understanding the karma gives you deep understanding to yourself and that’s how you fall in love with karma,”.

Karma is a spiritual concept which tells that there is equivalent reaction to every action you perform.

No-one can escape karma. It meets everyone all the time for their deeds.

“Good deeds bring good karma and bad deeds bring bad karma and this is a popularized concept that many believe, as they experienced in their lives.”

“Karma is inevitable and nobody can escape it.”

Many people, specially who are religious fear karma as it surely gives its way of taste to people by making them experience life as per their deeds.

No-one want to be affected by karma but it still acts upon everyone and everything.

Karma balances everything and everyone on this little planet. It’s the duty of karma to put things in position and control and therefore it does its duty all the time.

“Karma is like a boomerang. It comes back to you with the same force you threw it.”

Karma is merciless. It doesn’t spare anyone. It is very strict to every organism on this living entity.

Many people fear it and therefore they hate it. But still they respect it and that’s the power of karma.

If you really want to fall in love with Karma, you need to understand it so well. That’s how you start appreciating it and stop getting scared of it.

It’s very simple to understand karma.

“Do good and good returns to you someway or other.”

“Do bad and bad returns to you someway or other.”

Realising the above concept and accepting any result in your life makes you ready for a better future.

What you need to learn from Karma:

• Be merciless, when you are doing right.
• Be disciplined, and work on your purpose every day.
• You need not impress anyone. Just perform your duties.
• Be everywhere, by fulfilling your purpose of life and become mortal.

Once you understand and follow Karma, you will fall in love with it and never regret that pure unconditional love.

Always do good deeds and ignore the results and Karma will bring you the good, when you are really in need, to help you out.

Keep loving Karma 😇

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You don’t need some complex habits to grow in your life. There are simple habits and they work well for self-improvement and the wonderful thing is they are minimalistic and are easy to start.

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I will share 5 minimalistic habits that are simple and powerful. These habits can change your life and help you grow into a better person.

It’s very hard to grow new habits in you and you keep thinking about changing your habits and sometimes you may have tried but gave up fast. You are what your habits make you.

Good habits make you feel good and bad habits make you feel bad. There are several effects of bad habits in human life. They inhibit your growth in all aspects of life. They make you lazy and desperate.

Even I have experienced the ill effects of a few bad habits. I felt weak, lazy, tired, and hopeless. Even I felt something is not right, and I felt something is missing, and I felt no satisfaction in anything.

I felt that I was going with the flow of life without trying to do something. Even though they are a few bad habits that limited me. They have bad effects that result in great confusion.

I understood that these habits are difficult to break. You learned these habits for several years and you can’t expect them to leave you in one day. One who gave up so easily trying to change has to remember this.

Bad habits take less time to form in someone. But good habits take a lot of time and therefore you need to keep working on the habits that build you into a better person. If you give up fast, you will become the old you that you hate.

There are several habits that are complex and you don’t to learn them as a beginner and you can start with small habits at first and grow them slowly. They are easy and growable in less time. I call them minimalistic or simple habits.

I advise you to trick yourself by using the 21/90 method. This method is so simple, and it only tricks your mind and helps you overcome your bad habits and learn simple habits in less time.

This method tells that it takes 21 days to form a habit and 90 days to form a lifestyle with the habit you grow in you. Therefore, start with one habit and follow it for 21 days and then see its result and continue to apply it for 90 days and it becomes part of your lifestyle.

Minimalistic habit #1

Early to rise. Wake up early in the morning. It has a lot of benefits. It improves your health. It improves your mental energy. The wonderful thing is you will have more time to live. You can use this time for doing things you love and you will never be late and your day goes right.

There are several advantages. You can get up early and exercise and build your physical body, which builds a strong mind. You can do journaling and you can plan your day or you can make plans about your goals.

Several types of research have proved the importance of waking up early in the morning. The research proved that by waking up early in the morning; you live longer. You will be happier. You will make the right decisions. Your immunity power gets stronger and there are more benefits.

In the beginning, waking up early may be hard. You may hit the snooze button several times. It’s okay. You can keep trying. What you can do is wake up 15 minutes before your regular time on the first day and double it the next day and triple it the third day and go on until you set a proper time for waking up.

This changes your mind slowly to get into the process and grow into the habit of waking up early.

Minimalistic habit #2

Smile: Smile at everyone you come across in your daily life and there is no exception. Smile at every person even though they are strangers and don’t care about what they think. Many are going through several hardships in their daily lives and your smile can act as medicine in their lives.

This smile costs nothing but a valuable medicine that can set the mood of others. This smile is a natural makeup that you can wear on your face and you look more beautiful with that smile. So wear it every day.

This smile not also helps others, but also you. It helps you decrease and heal the pain and suffering you are going through and makes you happy. Life becomes hopeful because of your smile and this smile is viral and remember to spread it around the world to make this world a heaven.

Minimalistic habit #3

Speak to yourself: Who doesn’t need an expert’s advice? Everyone needs advice. You are an expert and it’s your life and you know it well than others. Your advice is more valuable and effective and therefore sometimes talk to yourself. Tell yourself some positive affirmations every day.

It may look odd to talk to yourself, but it works for most people. If you don’t want to speak out to yourself. Go to a peaceful place in nature and contemplate in your head for positivity and solutions.

You can stand before a mirror and talk to yourself. Even this works perfectly. This habit is so simple and do it when you are alone and when the surrounding environment is calm for this habit to work effectively.

Minimalistic habit #4

Meditate: Just breathe if you don’t know how to meditate. Close your eyes and take deep breaths and this is a very simple technique as a beginner. You don’t need some complex methods when you are starting.

Sit in a comfy place and close your eyes and just breathe and let thoughts move in your head and don’t try to stop the flow. Stay calm and the thoughts come and go.

You may not believe in meditation until you get habituated to it. even researches proved that meditation improves your mental performance and several other aspects of life.

Learning this habit may be difficult at the beginning. You need not meditate for hours. Take 2 minutes a day and meditate in the first week. Then take 5 minutes next week and go on doubling time every week until you feel comfortable.

Minimalistic habit #5

Declutter: There is a lot of clutter around you and in you. You need to clear this clutter to become minimalistic and simple. Life becomes easy when you remove unnecessary from it. You fed your life everything and that’s why you are always in great confusion.

You get clarity when you remove what’s not necessary. This habit is minimalistic and powerful when you use it in your everyday life. You need to declutter two things mainly.

1. Declutter the space around you: In this process, you need to get rid of things around you that aren’t necessary. If you think they are necessary someday, store them somewhere else. You should have a few things in your working and living space. Arrange all items in proper order. Don’t throw things everywhere. Put them in a proper place. This helps you feel things are right.
2. Declutter your mind: Your mind plays an important role. It makes you and breaks you. Therefore maintaining your mind properly is very important. Therefore declutter your mind from negative thoughts, false beliefs, negative emotions.

Follow these 5 simple habits to transform your life. Every beginning to change is difficult and get started and love the process and build yourself strong and into a better person who you can fall in love with every day.

I have designed a template that you can download here and track your progress step by step.

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Reading a book consumes a lot of time, but this busy world made it impossible for many people to read in their daily lives. Therefore, they are giving up reading even though they want to read. For such people, these methods work like charm.

These methods are effective, and they save you a lot of time. These methods even make it possible for you to learn so many books in less time. This way you can get more knowledge in less time. These methods will create an interest in learning more every day.

Before sharing these methods, I want to tell you about the importance of learning books. Learning books improves your quality of thoughts and your life and this learning helps you experience more than one life as you learned even others thoughts and experiences from books.

There are 3 effective methods you can use to learn many books in less time. Few may know these methods already and many don’t know these ways and therefore they can use these methods to learn books effectively.

Method #1:

Video reviews:

You will find many reviews on all popular books on the internet. These videos cover mostly everything from books. All important things will be shared in the video reviews saving you time. These reviews help you not waste time on unimportant or less important information from the books. Therefore, giving you what is necessary and making the learning simple and effective.

The video reviews length ranges from a few minutes to less than an hour, mostly. This helps you save time and learn more than 1 book in an hour, which is great.

Even though it’s fascinating to learn a book in less time. You may miss many ideas from the book as the video moves on or you may forget what you learned. Therefore, the best way to learn effectively is to take notes on paper, laptop, tablet, or smartphone.

This helps you remember and recap the lessons or ideas from the book effectively.

Method #2

Audiobooks:

Most books are turned into audiobooks nowadays. You will find every popular book in audio format and you can listen to these audiobooks while traveling or commuting.

Even while working you can listen to these audiobooks. Even audiobooks are turned into different chapters and therefore you can choose a topic from a book and listen to it.

There are several services that provide this service and amazon is the popular provider of audio content and they even provide a free trial. These audiobooks can be forwarded while listening or you can skip uninteresting chapters and listen and understand the book faster.

It’s advisable to listen to audiobooks in a calm space so that you will understand clearly what you listening to.

Method 3:

Book summaries:

There are several people who publish book summaries which are short and long in form and there are several book reports you can refer to on the internet. These summaries or reports have all the information about the book you want to read.

Mostly the important ideas and information are presented in these book summaries and reports and therefore you can finish learning them fast. You will find summaries for mostly all popular books.

These three methods help you save time and learn many books effectively and therefore you can apply the methods or ideas you learn instantly in your life which is amazing.

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“Perfectionism is an illusion that you develop. It doesn’t exist at all. But still, most people try to get perfection in their life and end up living a miserable life. It’s not possible to get what is unreal and realizing this helps you save time.”

Most people try to gain perfection in their lives, jobs, relationships, businesses, and so on. Even many people dwell and suffer, waiting for things to become perfect and in the process, they lose their valuable time and life.

Even many don’t start their jobs, businesses, or any other events in life waiting for perfection. There is no limit to perfection. It’s an infinitely long path where you keep moving and reach nowhere.

Your success won’t come from perfection. Perfection is an illusion that makes you live an unreal life, where you build castles in the air that do not stand strong. If you wait for perfection, you will never get started at anything in your life. Instead, your life and time will be gone, and you will be left with regrets at the end.

Even many of you waited so long trying to make things right and then start something in your life. But in this process, you lost your valuable time and opportunities that never return, which is very sad.

“Opportunities don’t wait for perfection. They will be gone if you don’t grab them fast.”

In life, there is no right time or wrong time. You have this very little time, and you have to use it well. If not, time takes away your life along with it and you will not have any more time to do things in your life and you will die a painful and regretful life.

That’s the reason why you should stop waiting for perfection and take a risk now and start things without any delay.

“Time and opportunities are more valuable than your waiting.”

Building your mindset free from this perfection is very important. It can be done by reprogramming your mind by teaching yourself some simple and powerful concepts.

Perception change: Everyone looks at one thing in different ways and therefore what looks right for you may not be right for others, which makes your thing imperfect.

Different people judge in different ways, and it’s completely based on their perception. That’s why sometimes in life, you need to ask your question differently.

Instead of asking “why is it like this?” You should ask, “why shouldn’t it be like this?” This changes your whole perception mechanism and makes you think in a right way.

“Your judgement fuels your perfection and therefore ignore it and just get started.”

Betterment: You always want things to be better in your life. But don’t miscalculate betterment with perfection. Betterment is real and you can track it by seeing the changes happening in your life every day. But perfection is unreal and you can’t track something unreal. If you realize this simple concept, you will get away from perfection and come closer to betterment.

Instead of making things perfect, make them better every day with your ideas and efforts. It may be your job, business, relationship, or anything, see you are doing better every day. If you don’t see betterment, do something about it, and avoid perfection thought in your life.

“Perfection suffers you and fails you but betterment brings you joy and success.”

Do it now: Don’t wait for things to become perfect. Waiting doesn’t pause your life or time you have been given. They move on and learn from them to move on in your life. Don’t stuck in life waiting. Sometimes you won’t have any time left. You will miss the opportunities that never return.

Therefore, start doing today. It may be your business, job, hobby, or relationship. Don’t wait. Just do.

“Doing it now is better than waiting for perfection that never comes.”

You may be small now. But starting will make a difference. Take your first step and move forward. Everything starts small, and real efforts and learning make it big. Instead of dwelling in your life telling that you are waiting for things to be alright, get up and take action before you lose this valuable time and life.

“Remember done is better than perfection.”

You may do mistakes in the process and it’s okay. Learn from those mistakes and grow every day. This is how you use valuable time and life you have been given.

“Your progress matters the most than perfection.”

Instead of dwelling and suffering by becoming lazy in the process of waiting for perfection. It’s far better to escape the perfection mindset and start working. Even mistakes are okay. Even failing is okay. The important thing is to learn from your failures and never quit.

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“Becoming better every day is very important. You should learn new things every day and apply it to your life. If you don’t change and improve yourself every day, you will dwell and suffer all your life.”

Everyone wants to become a better person. But most people do nothing about becoming better every day. They assume to become better by the way they are. They don’t want to make changes. They don’t want to learn. But they want to become better, which won’t happen.

It is impossible to become better every day by doing nothing. You need to nourish your mind and body every day to become better and stronger. What you feed your mind and body with makes what you will be.

You can’t expect your body to become stronger by eating junk every day. In the same way, you can’t expect your mind to become better by feeding it with junk thoughts.

Remember the days you did nothing. You just spent time lazily on useless things and did you feel any betterment in you? Instead, you would have felt tired and hopeless about life.

When this becomes your habit, you will never become better and instead, your mind growth stops and you become addicted to false things in your life. You will live a life you hate, but somehow you still live it. Self- hatred is lethal for the mind.

“Don’t live a dead life when you are still alive.”

If you take charge of your life and do things that improve your life, you will become hopeful and happy. You need not worry about methods. Most methods are simple and you know them well. The only problem is execution.

There are simple ways to become better every day. These methods only need your efforts and determination to work well for you. All methods involve learning. Your mind has everything and you need to nourish it with the knowledge to become better every day.

Learn from situations: Every day you come across some kind of situation. Some situations are good and they bring you joy and happiness and some situations are bad and they bring you pain and sadness. Whatever the situation may be, the wonderful thing is you have something valuable to learn from every situation in your life.

Most people ignore this and they suffer because of the situation. They give up several things in life because of situations. They give control to situations, and they feel weak and desperate.

You need to control situations in your life. Don’t give your control to them. You need to respond to a situation instead of reacting. This way you will have more control over situations.

When you respond to your situation, you will try to understand it well and then make decisions whereas when you react, you don’t understand and make decisions that go wrong most of the time.

If you want to learn from situations and become better every day. Respond to them don’t react.

“Responding gives you control over situations and reacting gives situations the control over you.”

Learn from people: There are several mentalities that make one person different from others. Different people think differently and as a human, you deal with other humans every day in your daily life, and learning from them is necessary to survive well in this world.

Observe people carefully every day. You need to observe their actions more than their words and how they respond to everything in their lives. You can’t experience every situation in your life and therefore you need to learn from others mistakes and experiences.

This way you will stay ahead when you have to deal with the same mistakes or experiences. This way you grow and become better every day fast.

You can’t commit all mistakes and experience every situation in your life and that’s why learn from others mistakes and experiences to grow strong every day.

Learn from knowledge resources: There are several sources to learn from in this modern world. There are books, videos, blogs, courses, and the internet to learn about anything you wish to. The knowledge is at your fingertips.

You can learn any skill and techniques in no time using these sources of knowledge. Feed your mind with useful knowledge so that it stays active and helps you become better.

If you don’t feed your mind with knowledge, it becomes passive and lazy which works against you and therefore, nourish it with amazing knowledge that’s available around you.

Learn from your failures and mistakes: It may be a business or job or relationship. When you fail, you need to learn from your failures. They teach you precious lessons that you can apply for your lifetime.

Don’t be scared of your failures. They help you grow stronger when you learn from them. They are part of your success. They are the symbols of your mistakes you need to correct.

By learning from your mistakes and failures, you will do better at anything the next time that helps you grow into a better person who has wonderful experiences and wisdom for growth.

“Accept failures are part of the success and learn from them and enjoy the process.”

Use these simple yet powerful methods and grow every day into a better person. By becoming a better person, you do well in several aspects of your life. You will not be weak-minded like many. You will appreciate taking risks and not giving up on anything in life.

You will live a joyful life that has the zeal to acquire knowledge and positivity. Grow habits in you that build you strong and learn from everything in life as everything has a wonderful lesson for mental growth.

Keep learning and keep growing into a better person every day.

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You think you control time. You think you have time. You think you kill time. You think you own time. But the truth is different and painful. You don’t control time, time controls you. You don’t have time, time have you. You don’t kill time, time kills you. You don’t own time, time owns you.

Every living entity on this planet will dissolve in this infinite circle of life and time. People will fade away and this civilization will fade away, but time remains firm and strong.

Living with the wrong beliefs, you are losing your time and this valuable life you have been given. You may have dreams and desires to fulfill but you never took action saying let time come. But the truth is time never comes to you and it will be gone without giving you a hint.

If you keep postponing things in your life for later. That later may never come in your life sometime. There are people who are waiting eagerly for at least one more day in their life. There are people who don’t have a tomorrow.

If you are lucky enough to have a tomorrow, then be grateful to your life and time and use that day well. Don’t live a life full of regrets. Live a life that has fulfillment, joy, and success.

If you don’t use time well, you are doing a great mistake. Your dreams and desires die with you, giving you a painful life. You are going to suffer everyday thinking and worrying about not taking opportunities.

You will get money if you lost it. You will get success if you lost it. You will get happiness if you lost it. You will get satisfaction if you lost it. You will get many things in life if you lose them, but you will never get the time that you lost.

“You need to realize that yesterday never comes to you again and you never know what tomorrow brings you. Therefore, you need to stop worrying about your past that’s gone and future that’s a mystery and learn to live in this moment and make most of it.”

This is the secret of happiness and using your time well and making a difference in your life.

“ Your time is limited here, but your energy isn’t. Use all your energy when you have it to accomplish your goals and desires.”

If you procrastinate being lazy, you will lose this valuable energy with time. This human life expectancy is already decreasing day by day and no one knows when your time will end here and it’s a surprise and mystery to everyone.

Do it now: postpone nothing. It may be a small task or a big one. Do it now. Sometimes later may never come in your life. Instead of doing nothing and saying excuses for why you didn’t start something. Take action right now.

Don’t wait for time, conditions, or people. It’s your dream you want to bring to life. You are responsible for your life. You can’t blame situations or people. Stop making excuses and start making progress.

Learn forever: keep learning. Learning is a catalyst for success at anything. The more you learn, the better you become. It saves you time. Learn the necessary knowledge and skills and then work on your dreams or goals.

You can’t cut fruit with a blunt knife easily and sharpening it makes the task easy and fast. The same way with a blunt mind you can’t achieve things fast and effectively but with a sharp mind, you can. So spend time on building yourself and improving your skills.

Focus on big goals: This life is too short. You can’t waste it on easy goals. Instead, try to focus all your energy on big goals that could change you and the world. You can make a plan to accomplish your big goals. Break the big goal into small tasks and accomplish one task at a time.

Have a definite number and time limit for each goal which forces your mind to work on your goal every day. Otherwise, you may postpone or compromise with the time that brings failure.

You may not reach the number you expected in your time limit and it’s okay as you took action. Any number is better than zero and you keep working on reaching your goal, bringing in new changes that will meet your expectations.

Never give up: Even though you started something you give up because of situations or failures or some other reasons. But this way you are wasting your energy and time.

Bad situations may come. Failures may happen. Life may knock you down again and again. You should never give up. Life and time test you in all different ways to check your strength and success comes to one who stands strong and never gives up.

Never waste time. Use your time properly and live a fulfilled life instead of a regretful one. Your death should give you peace, not pain. Start using time well today.

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Too much intelligence is a curse. Their intelligence creates problems. The same intelligence makes them live an abnormal life. They always give priority to their logic more than their emotions and feelings.

Sometimes people think and assume them as machines as they are expressionless in several situations. Their actions look abnormal, and their life looks abnormal to normal people.

People can’t go along with smart people in several aspects of life. Smart people always get involved in their work as they are hunger for innovation and success all the time.

They dwell in their heads: Smart people live all their lives thinking and rethinking in their heads. They don’t give any break to their thinking process. They overthink and they undergo depression most of their life.

They think about things more than thinking about people. They involve and love their work and spend all their lives thinking about making things better. That’s how they gave us several innovative products that we use in our daily lives, for which we are grateful.

They undergo depression every day: Smart people have stress factors. They are hunger for innovation, betterment, and success. They don’t care about anything and they stay aloof, thinking about solutions all the time.

They don’t avoid stress. They amplify it in their heads by thinking more and more and worrying about making things happen. That’s how many got mental disorders.

They are poor at relationships. They care logic more than emotions and therefore they don’t understand well how others feel. Relations work on emotions and not logic. They always love their family but they don’t know how to express because of a lack of time or busyness or their smartness.

That’s why they have less family time and they are mostly alone with no or fewer friends. Only people who understand smart people can go along in their lives. If they don’t understand smart people, the relationships get broke soon or later. Most smart people end up alone in life.

They are rejected by society. This is a painful truth. Society hates them and rejects them for what they are and for not becoming one of them. Smart people hate monotony and the status quo.

Therefore, they live differently from others without following rules or regulations properly. Smart people are good at making but terrible at the following, and this becomes one reason why society rejects smart people.

They are bad at asking. Smart people find things on their own mostly and if they don’t find answers they ask people. As they are bad at asking, they communicate little with people.

They are bad at exposing their work to people, and they need someone to do that. Even if you observe people from history, all smart people are exposed by someone. Most of them don’t come out on their own to expose their talents.

The problem is, the smarter you become the more you become conscious of choosing things in life and this is the reason why you search for the best things that are rare or unavailable which makes you settle with less.

Yes, smartness is a great gift, but it’s a curse you have to break. Smart people don’t talk about them, but the world talks about them. Even smart people have emotions that are killed inside because of situations or beliefs they have grown in their lives.

Grow intelligence and become smart but don’t forget to live as a human with connections. At the end of your life, people will praise you for the inventions that you gave to the world, but they don’t praise you as a person much.

It's great to love your work but at the same time love your family and friends and spend at least some time with them whenever possible. You are born as a human being where your family loved you and make sure you die as a human where people love you as a person instead of a smart person.

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Humans have developed into great and powerful beings on this planet than any other living organism. We reached stars and made several advancements in several fields. We created several wonders with our intelligence. We made medicine for several diseases.

We created several ways to achieve things faster. We built some magnificent machines and buildings. We strengthened our physical power. We built our economy. We built civilization.

We gained vast knowledge. We made connections with people who are far away. We gained freedom that gave us happiness. We created several opportunities. There are several new jobs created every day. We waged wars and won them.

But We forget to live greatly. We gave up our kindness. We gave up good. We gave up morals and human values. We reached stars, forgetting about the land that gave us life. We made several advancements in this materialistic world that made life comfortable but forgot about the spiritualistic world that can give us peace and happiness.

We created wonders along with several blunders with our intelligence. We made medicine for several physical problems and we forgot about the medicine for the soul. We worked on speeding up things, forgetting about working on moments.

We built exceptional things but forget to build ourselves into the right ones. We developed our physical power but forgot to fix our weak minds. We built a robust economy but forgot to take care of making the nature strong that is giving us life. We built a civilization that makes no sense with humanity.

We gained vast knowledge that has less or no value in human life. We made connections with people who are away but forgot to live happily with those who are closer to them. We gained freedom that made us sad as we used it wrongly.

We created opportunities that don’t help the survival of many. New jobs are increasing every day and even unemployment is increasing at the same time, which is strange. We won several external wars but lose in the wars that happen within us.

We think we won. But we lost in several aspects of life. We gave up what’s necessary for human life and we made living so complex. We learned to act more than living wearing different masks for different situations.

We gave up kindness that’s the source of genuine love. We gave up morals that’s pure fuel for our souls. We gave up the powerful truth as it is bitter. We gave up values that fuel our minds. We show off our lives as great before social media, but we live a worse life in reality.

There are times, where we loved others unconditionally. Where we followed morals and values. Where we spoke the truth. Where we won over our minds. Where we valued relationships more than materialistic things. Where we built peace and happiness in human life. Where we used common sense and became wiser. Where we cared about the mother nature that nourished us. Where we worked hard for the betterment not being greedy. Where kindness and love, filled our minds and hearts.

Such times are phenomenal as we lived genuinely, laughed heart fully, loved truly, helped unconditionally, followed our dreams, and grew more and more humanity and built heaven on earth.

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How can someone be glad without being successful? Do you know what success is? If earning a million dollars is a success for you. Some other people may see success in getting a dream job or by building a strong relationship or some other reason.

Success isn’t the same for everyone. It depends on the dreams and goals that different people have. Therefore, you can’t say who is more successful. Success is uneven. You succeed sometimes, and you fail sometimes. But happiness is a choice. You can be happy all the time if you choose. You can be happy sometimes, if you choose.

Happiness is a state of mind and you can maintain this state longer or forever by making a simple choice. Choose to be happy all the time, irrespective of any conditions that happen in your life.

The conditions and situations that make you sad are temporary. Losing your valuable happiness for temporary situations is useless. Choose happiness over every situation and it’s hard but if you get habituated. It works like a charm.

There are some simple rules that will help you gain happiness. These rules are universal, and they can be applied instantly.

Rule #1

Don’t live to change the world. Live to change yourself into a better person. You may be trying to change or want to see the change in the world. It includes your family, neighbors, and society. You expect them to change and they expect you to change, and this is where the problem starts.

You don’t want to change, and they don’t want to change. This leads to unhappiness. Even in relationships, this is the problem. Instead of accepting them, you expect more from them and these expectations lead to unhappiness.

“Expectations are the cause of sorrows and pain in human life. The less you expect from other, the more you will gain happiness.”

No human is perfect. Everyone has their own flaws and don’t point out their flaws, instead help them fix their flaws if necessary. If you can’t fix the flaws, then accept their flaws and remember these flaws make any person unique from another person.

Therefore, the simple rule to remember is: “Expect Nothing and Accept Everything in relationships and that gives you happiness☺️ and peace✌️.”

Rule #2

Find what makes you happy. Different things make different people happy. What makes you happy may not make someone else happy. If making money makes you happy, make more money by finding some great businesses. If traveling makes you happy, travel to far and beautiful places more often.

Different things make you happy and find the one that makes you happier and do it often. But remember, don’t overdo it. You have several responsibilities to fulfill in this human life. If you try to escape them by pursuing only one thing in life. This rule gives the opposite results.

Therefore, spend more time on things you love♥️ along with fulfilling your responsibilities.

Rule #3

Stop complaining. If you keep complaining about things in life, you can never be happy. Instead, fix what’s wrong or if it can’t be fixed, leave it. Don’t suffer yourself complaining about things around you.

You need to realize that nothing is perfect in this world. Everything and everyone has some flaws. This way you can stop complaining about things. Even you are not perfect and you don’t complain about that. Fix your mindset first and stop complaining and relieve yourself from cluttering your mind🤯.

Rule #4

Learn to praise and grow gratitude. There are several things in life you can praise and to be grateful for. There are people who don’t have what you have. Even they suffer and cry for things they don’t have just like you.

You need not cry for what you don’t have or you need not be jealous of someone who is better than you. Instead, you need to learn to praise who is better than you and you need to learn to show gratitude for what you have. You must remember that there are several people who don’t have what you have. This tells that you are better than someone already and you need to say thanks for such life.

The important lesson to remember is: Give praise to someone who is better than you and learn from them to gain what you want. Be thankful for what you have and stop crying 😭 over what you don’t have. Help💁 someone who is not better than you.

These simple lessons can help you become happy and it’s your choice then, to be happy forever or sometimes as I already said — Happiness is a choice🐵🐶🌞

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You spend about 30–40% of your life in education and if this becomes waste for you. You lost the valuable life you have been given. There is no end for education. You can study forever if you want to.

Education isn’t meant to work for every person. If you look at people who are great, they all skipped or gave up education at some point in their lives to do something great. I don’t tell you to give up too if it is working for you. If it’s not working, then you have to deal with something else in your life.

Everyone can’t be good at one thing and you must realize it. If someone is wonderful at memorizing things, which is important in the education system. Some others may be good at executing things. Some are good at mind work and some are good at physical work.

What if you expect a donkey to run like a horse and what if you expect a horse to work like a donkey? It’s not possible. These expectations force the horse and donkey to work like one another and your expectations fail, which makes you sad.

Everyone has their own way of thinking. You can’t make everyone the same. But the education system is trying to do so, and this is how the system fails and it fails beautiful minds and makes them work wrongly.

Education means bringing up your talents out, but it's about learning to memorize and present what you learned in the education system, which is why many people hate education.

Human minds are beautiful. Remember when you are a child. You lived your life happily with a lot of freedom. You lived truly and enjoyed everything without calculating anything much. But as you grew up you are conditioned to follow rules and systems which are fixed and are not meant for everyone.

“You were born wild but systems tamed you into a person who you weren’t and who you shouldn’t be.”

Education and schooling taught you the wrong ways most of your life. It taught you to memorize things and told you to forget about your dreams. It taught you to have big dreams and told you what your dream should be, which makes it not your dream at all.

It taught you to solve problems in different educational subjects and forgot to teach you how to solve your problems in life. It taught you to think big and limit your thoughts to what’s only possible. It taught you several scientific methods and forgot about the morals and values that help you stand strong.

It taught you about comfort and advised you not to take any risks. But they forgot that taking risks is the way to gain greatness in life. You always dreamt of comfort in your life that is taught to you since childhood and believing this you never took risks to reach your goals and dreams.

It taught you not to do mistakes, and this limits your creativity. Making mistakes motivates you to try new things, which is very important for creativity.

This education replaced your creativity with the monotony that makes living boring. You are taught to limit your thinking. You crippled your thoughts, which is painful. You gave up your creative thinking that could build new things and solve many problems in your life and in this world.

Life and education are two opposite things. Education teaches you lessons first and tests you later, but Life tests you first and gives you lessons later.

One more problem with education is, it teaches things that can’t be applied in real-time. There is more outdated knowledge than the updated one. Human life isn’t just about memorizing and doing monotonous work. There are some outstanding things human minds can do. They are so powerful machines that can do amazing things and if you don’t use them well; you are wasting them.

Instead of limiting your minds with rules and regulations of this education system, you need to use your mind to the fullest. You need to learn skills that will really help you in jobs, businesses, relationships, and life.

You should learn about dealing with your problems, anxiety, worry, and situations. You should learn more from your experiences and failures. You should learn to live well and peacefully. You should learn to take risks. You should learn to apply your knowledge in your practical life.

Don’t waste your life, limiting yourself to comfort, false beliefs, and advice given by people who didn’t do much in their lives in the first place. This life is so short. Live it to the fullest. Experiment with several things and don’t panic to try unfamiliar things. Learn from your mistakes and failures and grow into a wise person instead of limiting your capabilities. Learn morals and values that keep you in happy.

All this time, you were taught that you shouldn’t fly as it may be risky but what’s the value of having wings if you don’t fly high. The sad part is you forgot that you have wings and you can fly so high and have an original life. Kill all your false beliefs and limits taught to you and realize now about what outstanding things you can do and fly high majestically.

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Follow these 3 beliefs and save time and become productive in life.

Belief #1🥇

Believe you have no time:

You postpone or don’t do certain things in life, believing that you have a lot of time. But the truth is you don’t have time at all. If you live your life telling yourself this lie, you will suffer later in life as your time will be gone that never returns.

Even you may have not started a business or a job or something in life saying yourself, “I will do it later.” But later may never come to you. You can’t guarantee what tomorrow will bring you. You only control what happens now. Therefore, take action now.

The average expectancy of a human is decreasing📉 every day. You can’t guarantee that you will live for 100 💯 years. You don’t even know how long you will live. But we all believe that we live long, maybe forever, which isn’t true at all.

Therefore, you need to accept the truth that your time is limited and you need to do things that matter to you the most. Focus your energy on your big goals and dreams and work on them with a motivated mind every day.

Remember: “You don’t have unlimited time⏳, but you have unlimited energy ⚡ to bring your dreams into reality.”

Belief #2🥈

Believe nobody cares about you. They care about themselves:

Do you think people care about you? Do you think they care about your looks, job, business, or lifestyle? No, the fact is they care more about themselves than you. This is basic human nature. But human minds create an illusion that others will care about their lives and so you build a prison around you of “What do they think?”

Building this prison, you act with limits every day in your life. You don’t start a business because you are scared of others' judgment. You don’t take the risk as you are scared of failure that brings criticism from people. You don’t change your job to a better one as you are scared of losing comfort. You listen to advice from people who didn’t even try and go through what you are trying and going through. You don’t pursue your dreams in fear.

It’s 💯% your life and you are in charge of it. Living all your life clinging to people’s judgment will make you lose your charm one day and you will hate yourself and you will work like a machine instead of living like a human.

Remember that no one cares about you. They care about themselves.

Belief #3🥉

Take risks and lose regrets:

Taking risks is very important in human life. These risks are challenges that give you ultimate joy once you accept and solve them. Don’t ignore risks as they add a spark to your life. Risks are opportunities when dealt correctly without giving up gives you significant success. But you don’t take risks as you prefer comforts. Comforts will not make you live a joyous life, but taking risks will.

It may be difficult to take risks, but taking them makes a difference in your life. Don’t ignore this. Risks are easy once you take and try them. They are common things you can do, but as they are new, they seem difficult. As long as you are in the comfort zone, your mind doesn’t allow you to take risks and grow. But once you take a risk, you will feel difficult at the beginning but you will enjoy the process.

If you want to grow into a better person who is active. Consider taking risks. This helps you gain confidence and learn great lessons that add value to your life. If not, you will live a comfortable life which is temporary and you will regret the way you lived in the ending days of your life. Taking risks helps you get away from regrets.

Remember: Take risks to grow into a better person👨 and ignore risks to inhibit your growth.📈

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1. Not taking risks: Don’t avoid risks in life. They help you grow stronger. Very few people take risks in life and they reach higher positions. In the beginning, comfort becomes your instinct. This instinct keeps searching for ways to gain more comfort and makes you lazy. You don’t take risks because you care comfort more than risk. You need to take every risk that comes your way and out of many risks you pursue, at least one risk can change your life forever. When you don’t grow and become better every day, you can’t enjoy your life. There are several excuses you may tell for not taking risks in life and the most common fear in you, and everyone is fear of failure. Failure is part of the success and it gives you lessons and experiences that are valuable and nothing can give you such wisdom for life that failures give you. Accept failures just the way you accept success in life. “Remember: One big or unexpected move or risk can change your entire life.”
2. Not learning from failures: Failures happen to everyone and there is no one who only has success alone in their life. Even if you study the lives of great and successful people you know, you find that they didn’t succeed in one attempt. Their success resulted from several trials and perseverance. Their glorious success is the result of wonderful lessons taught by failures. In every failure they faced, they learned their mistakes and fixed them in their next trials and you need to learn from all your failures and you need to accept them as part of your success. “Remember: Learn from failures as they teach you real lessons for growth in life and find success.”
3. Dwelling in the past and worrying about the future: Most people are stuck in life. Either they are stuck in pain from the past or in worry about the future and they forgot about this moment. If you live in the past and the future, in your head. It’s not possible to live in the present and enjoy your life. You need to fix this. You need to stop dwelling in the past and stop worrying about the future. Then, it’s possible to live in the present and grow into a better person. “Remember: You can’t control the past or the future. You can only control this moment.”
4. Not being grateful: Have you ever felt there is something missing in your life? Have you ever felt jealous looking at others as they have something you wanted? I hope you have. But do you know what they have gone through? At least do you know what they are going through? No, right? Sometimes you need to understand that no one is perfect. Everyone has something missing in their life. Sometimes you want to become rich like someone and that someone may not have happiness, but you have it, for which you have to be so grateful. There are people who are suffering because of their health and if you have good health. Be grateful. There are people who are dying. But you still have life. Be grateful. You can be grateful for every minor thing in your life. There is no exception. Be grateful every day as you are better than several people in this world and live your life with hope. “Remember: Being grateful gives you self-awareness and helps you realize the importance of your life.”
5. Being desperate: When unpleasant situations happen in your life, you mostly give up your control to situations, and then you will start suffering by abusing the unpleasant situation. The more you abuse the bad situation, the more you will lose hope and become desperate. Soon, you will become a victim of that bad situation in your life. You will lose your happiness and peace. When there is no hope, there is no interest in life. Hope is the fuel that runs your life to accomplish your dreams and goals. By giving away your control to the bad situation, you prove that you are weaker than situations. Instead of abusing the bad situations in your life. If you have understood the situations well and try to solve them, then you would have grown more hope in you instead of losing it. Hope is very necessary. Never lose hope in any situation. “Remember: Having hope makes you and Losing hope breaks you.”
6. Living someone else’s life: The truth is, most people aren’t living their lives. They are living someone else’s. What about you? Ask these questions and if your answer is yes. Then you are also living someone else’s life. Do you care more about others' judgment👨‍⚖️ about you? Do you do things in life to impress others? You have this one life and the limited one. If you try to act more, you will fail to live it. Do things you love, ♥️. Live to impress yourself. Take risks and work on your goals, not caring about judgment. Live life to the fullest. “Remember: Live your life in the way you love it and don’t live someone else’s life and lose yourself.”
7. Not following your passion: You are lucky enough if you know what your passion is. There are people who are still searching and are unhappy as they couldn’t find their passion. Follow your passion. Passion keeps you active and happy and you will never feel tired of work if your work is your passion. No one wants to live a regretful life. Everyone deep inside wishes to fulfill their dreams and wishes. Not following your passion costs your valuable life and peace. Follow your passion and live your life instead of suffering a regretful life. “Remember: Following your passion makes you feel alive and not following it makes you feel dead. ⚰️”

Avoid these mistakes in your life to live a joyful life where you feel more alive and peaceful✌️ at every step of your life.🧬

Happy living 😇

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Are you suffering from your job? Do you hate your work? Do you think you are wasting your life pursuing something you hate? Imagine you never get tired of your work. Imagine you feel fulfilled with the work you do. Imagine you enjoy working every day.

How do you feel? It feels great to enjoy life every day. You spend a lot of time on work every day and if that work is what you love. Then you will never feel it as a burden. Instead, you would enjoy it like anything.

You can call such work your passion. One who found their passion has to pursue it to enjoy their life. One who didn’t find it has to wait and you have to keep looking for it. You won’t find your passion when you want. Passion finds you when it feels you are ready.

You may struggle to find your passion. But the truth is you need to observe so carefully. Passion is like a moment. It appears and vanishes so fast. Your passion need not be anything big. It can be so small even. But your calculations make you miss it.

It may be a salesman job, cooking, cleaning, or some hobby. It doesn’t matter what kind of work it may be. If you enjoy it. It’s your passion. Just take it and get better at it.

Have you ever studied the lives of great people carefully? If you have studied, then you would understand how passion found them and how they found their passion and how both fell in deep love with each other.

Albert Einstein, a famous physicist, kept pursuing several other jobs before he became a brilliant physicist. He worked as a part-time teacher, associate professor, tutor, patent clerk, invention analyzer, and several other teaching jobs. In the process, passion found him, and he found passion.

A. P. J. Abdul Kalam, a well-known scientist, sold tamarind seeds when he was a child and then helped his cousin in catching newspaper bundles and made his first wage. He helped in the ferry business his family had.

He tried to become a fighter pilot, but unqualified. He joined DRDO, and then he joined ISRO. He was appointed as the Principal Scientific Adviser to the Government of India. Then he was nominated for the post of president of India.

Walt Disney, a famous cartoonist and the founder of Disney land, started his career with a small business that made commercials, but the business was short-lived. Then he took up a job at a film ad company where he got an interest in animation.

He was rejected for an editor post and one day he was drawing pictures in a church and he saw a small mouse there and that’s how the idea of mickey mouse was born which is a famous cartoon picture now. You can’t tell how a small thing can inspire you so much and that’s why you need to be so attentive to every small thing around you.

These are a few examples, and every glorious success is the result of many things. Noone started with what they became. They pursued several menial jobs before their passion found them.

So how do you think your passion finds you? The only way it finds you is: Keep pursuing several jobs that come in your way. Don’t ignore even minor jobs. Do everything. Pursue everything. In the process, you will find the passion that makes you fall in love with it so deeply.

When you find your passion, that moment is speechless. Quit what you are doing and work on your passion and that’s how you will fall in love with it and with you every day. It may be difficult to pursue a passion, but it’s worthy.

Your passion adds value to your life. You will never feel tired of working instead you will enjoy your work as it is what you are highly passionate about. Your passion makes a difference in your life and it makes a difference in this world for which you will be alive forever in people’s minds.

What are you waiting for? Keep looking for your passion and even it is looking so eagerly for you. Go fall in real love with your passion that makes you fall in love with yourself too.

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Take a break from what you are doing regularly and do something else which makes you feel good. For example, you can pursue a hobby or you can cook or you can dance or you can sing or you can try new software or you just experiment on unfamiliar things or watch something inspiring or find more about other things or spend time with family.

You have a million things to choose from. Choose what’s interesting to you. The important thing is enjoying whatever you are doing. An inspired mind is calm and produces some great thoughts and ideas. Bring your mind to a calm state by doing unconventional things.

If you stress your mind to work more vigorously when it is uninspired, It will give you all opposite results and you’ll feel the work as a burden and hate the work. Somehow this makes your work ineffective, and that’s the reason you must give your mind some rest.

You need to do this only for a while; you need not do this for several days because it will turn into laziness and therefore you get to your work as soon as possible.

I have a few ideas to share about what you should do when you are uninspired.

Read an inspiring book: If you have any favourite book. Read it or choose from several inspirational books available and start reading. Make sure the book you choose is interesting. Don’t just read it because it has so many reviews or it’s a best seller. Even an article that can inspire you is enough. You don’t need an entire book. Read something interesting and inspiring.

Watch videos that inspire you: There are several videos on the internet and find something that inspires you. You can choose YouTube or Instagram and search for inspirational videos. The videos you watch need not be so long. They can be even a minute or less. There are such videos too, which makes your mood and brings back you to inspired mode. Watch such videos.

Meditate: Meditate for a while and it only helps to get inspired after a lot of practice. If you are new to meditation, you may not be able to meditate easily. But once you get habituated. It works. It helps you bring your mind to a calm state, which triggers your mind to get into inspiration mode.

Sing or Dance: If you never tried to Sing or Dance. Do it now. It will make you feel good and relieve your mind from stress and worry. Play your favourite song and start dancing to it or sit comfortably and sing the song along with the song being played. This will give you relief. Try it once. If you are shy, sit in a room alone and do it.

Do something new that you never did in your life: Try new things that you may have never done. It may be anything. It can be something adventurous or it can be something funny or it can be something emotional or it can be something scary. Make sure to try new things. This will help you understand yourself better and boosts your confidence.

Spend time with family: You may be busy all the time with your work. It’s surprising that work takes away your time for family in many cases and the reason why many work hard is, for the family but they ignore family when comes to work. Most human life is spent with work.

So when uninspired use that time to sit with your family and speak to them and share your experiences and thoughts and listen to them. This builds relations stronger.

Take a vacation: Take a vacation from regular life. Go visit new places. You will see new people and experience new situations, which makes your mind active. Speak to new people, and come to know about unknown things. Do what keeps your mind active and inspired.

Implement your own ideas if you get anything into your head because they work well because they are your own ideas.

There is a lot of importance to inspiration because it helps you to live and work effectively, where you will not feel tired or hectic, as you are loving the work. But when the same work is done too much, the minds can’t stay inspired. Our human minds are programmed to work for a little time to work well with full concentration.

Whatever your work may be. You should not force your mind to do too much work where it will feel the burden and make sure you don’t lose control over your work and over yourself and that’s why you need to do other things so you will get back to your work, feeling inspired.

You will lose your schedule, and sometimes it’s fine. Your mind is a great asset and you need to manage it properly and if you fail to do so will eventually destroy you. Make sure to give rest to your mind and always try to keep it in a calm state to stay inspired.

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The problem with the most human is they take a vacation from wonderful things in life, but they never take a vacation from terrible things.

They take a vacation from their joyful moments, family, goals and dreams but they never take a vacation from their unpleasant emotions, anger, anxiety and worry, sad moments and negative people and this is strange.

You want to be happy but without giving up bad and what’s unnecessary, how can you be happy ever? The most important thing is you have to give up what’s unnecessary and what’s bad for you and then it’s possible to gain happiness that is actually real and that actually sparks your life in every step of your life.

So now it’s time to take a vacation from your sadness and whatever the cause may be for your sadness. sadness results mostly from your negative things in life and it may be a bad situation or it may be a bad moment or negative emotion that’s suffering you.

If you want to take a vacation from this sadness, you need to do few things which are easy but it only happens when you have a right mindset that pushes you forward to get through your sadness and take a vacation from sadness forever.

Kill your negative emotions: Don’t allow your negative emotions to take over you. These negative emotions are so evil. They take away your happiness and peace. The more attention you give to them, the more they gain the power to control and suffer you.

The only way to kill them is: Stay calm and respond to situations instead of reacting and meditate every day for some time.

Get away from negative people: You may think the others may not show any impact on you. But the truth is completely different. You become someone with whom you spend time with. You may not know this consciously but unconsciously your mind learns negative things if you stay with negative people which cause sadness in you.

It's time to say goodbye to such negative people in your life and gain happiness and peace. Ignoring them at once isn’t easy, but you need to get away from them slowly and give importance to positivity and positive people.

Ignore sad moments and unhappiness: There are situations in life which turn you unhappy and sad moments keep haunting you and cause sadness and suffering in you. Ignore such sad moments in your life as they don’t help you become well. Instead, they make you stuck in life and suffer. Remember the lessons taught by sad moments in life and ignore the remaining things.

Realize that you can’t change your sad moments as they already happened. So think about how you can become better today and be grateful for sad moments too as they taught you something valuable.

Give up your jealousy: You may be jealous of someone who is more successful than you. You want to be like them but you didn’t. But this jealousy is making you compare yourself with others and then giving you pain and sadness.

Instead of experiencing jealousy by looking at successful people, show appreciation for them as they got successful. Learn from them and find how you can do much better. This is how you build a growth mindset.

Remember that you have happy moments in your life: Most people give more importance to sad moments and forgot that they have happy moments in their lives. Your life would have been completely different if you have concentrated more on happy moments in life than sad moments. Remember your happy moments more and give less or no attention to your sad moments.

This may be tough at the beginning but when you keep trying. It’s possible to concentrate on happy moments forever and take a vacation from sadness.

Get more positivity into your life: Only allow positive thoughts and positive people into your life. Consume positive content every day. Spend more time with positive-minded people every day. When positivity takes more part of your life. Negativity loses its part and value in you that eliminates sadness forever from your life.

Be grateful to what you have: Don’t be upset about things you lack in your life. Care about what you have in your life. There are people who don’t have what you have. There are worse situations several people are in. You are far better than many others in this world.

You need to be grateful for that. If you show this gratitude to what you have in your life, you will appreciate your life more every day. You will not give much attention to sadness at all and gain calmness in your mind which is very important to become happy forever.

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The main reason why most people fail in life is they fail to find answers for their questions that are actually suffering them from so long. Those questions may be simple questions which have simple answers or those questions may be difficult questions which are tough to answer or there are no proper answers at all.

Only asking will help you know whether or not those questions can be answered easily and if you spend all your life without asking these questions or without trying to find answers that are haunting you all your life will suffer you so much.

Some answers to your questions will change your life forever and these answers may help you make the right decisions and it gives you knowledge. It is very important to ask questions and find answers and never stop asking questions.

If you look at people who are great or who provided brilliant solutions and magnificent inventions. They all started by asking questions. In the process of finding answers for themselves. They were able to find solutions and create innovative products that are contributed to the world, which made human living easy.

If you understand this, you should start asking questions and try to find answers. Your answers may change your life or change the fate of the world. Just start asking and don’t worry about failing to get answers. Keep trying until you get a satisfactory answer.

The important thing is asking questions and clearing your doubts to become knowledgeable and wise. There are several ways you can find your answers. You can ask some person or you can research from journals or you can find by reading books or you can search it on the internet. Nowadays knowledge is available easily to everyone.

Even if you fail in getting your answers. You will become wise as you went through several resources and people to find your answers. This helps you understand things, and people well. In both ways, this asking is useful. If you succeed, you will have answers to your questions which makes you wise. Even if you fail, you will become wise as you have many answers for other questions that several people have.

If you never ask questions even though you have them. You will suffer not knowing answers to them. You will have regrets of not asking. You will stay ignorant forever. Your life will be boring too.

If you want to live a better life than others. You should ask and know. By knowing you will become wise and by not knowing you will stay foolish. Keep asking until you get your questions answered well. These answers may make your life simple and interesting where you live your life with more calmness and joy instead of confusion and worry.

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Love yourself every day. There are several advantages because of it. Self-love improves several aspects of your life, turning you into the best version of yourself. Most people hate their lives because of lack of self-love.

Lack of self-love destroys your happiness and peace. You live an unfulfilled life every day. You have low self-esteem and higher suffering. Lack of self-love or makes you live a horrible life.

When you don’t love yourself, you care about others judgment about you. You compare yourself to everyone all the time. You live on others rules and conditions. You lack self-awareness and self-respect.

You try to impress everybody. You live someone else’s life. You feel inferior. You lack self-confidence. You live your life just for the sake of living without valuing it. Finally, you will lose yourself forever.

Imagine you are living as yourself. Not comparing with others. You are living on your own terms and conditions. Imagine you live your life to impress yourself, not others. Caring about your satisfaction, not caring about risks or failures or judgment from others.

Imagine living your life happily every day irrespective of situations you are going through. Where fulfilled and valuable life is yours.

Imagine where you don’t act but live and love and laugh every day, heartfully without negative thoughts and emotions affecting your life. Imagine a life where you live without jealousy and live by appreciating things and people around you without complaining.

Imagine a life where others actions don’t make you react much, but your response has a lot of value in your life. Imagine a life full of satisfaction, joy and freedom from everything that’s suffering you.

Imagine a life where your dreams turn into reality and make you a better person. Imagine a life where you feel proud of yourself by accomplishing your desires and goals.

Imagine a life where you don’t lose yourself and live your own life instead of others life. Imagine a life where truth is your powerful asset, where you live an authentic life without faking it for others.

Imagine a life where you treat yourself well every day and don’t care about how others treat you. Imagine a life where you make decisions with more confidence, where you are self-aware and self-confident in every step of your life.

I hope you can stop imagining now and start pursuing such life by doing one simple thing. The simplest thing you need to do is love yourself every day. By loving yourself a little more every day, you are doing a great favour to yourself where you live a fulfilled and joyful life that makes a difference.

“Love yourself and fall in deep love with yourself every day.”

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Remember your childhood. Remember how you behaved? How you lived? How you laughed? How you acted. How you decided. How you enjoyed. How confident you were?🤔

How lovely you smiled every day? How real you were? How you dreamt of everything? How limitless you were in thinking? How imaginary and creative you were? How happy and true you were?🤔

You were unconditional. You loved people, truly. You fell several times but got up without giving up. You didn’t care about others opinion. You didn’t care about others judgment. You didn’t make up your life. You lived the way you love.

But what happened when you grew up? When you grew up, everything changed in your life. You may say you got the maturity to think properly. But what kind of maturity is that, making you suffer and worry every day.

Your maturity should give you the power to think clearly and make the right solutions that give you happiness. You made decisions without confidence. You said no to several things in life as you thought that’s not the right time.

You didn’t pursue your dream as you cared others opinion and advice. You rejected a relationship believing that you aren’t ready.

You lived a life that you hate because you aren’t real and you are acting all your life to impress others you don’t know. You don’t have fulfilment and satisfaction. You don’t smile truly. You don’t love genuinely. You don’t live truly.

You have more regrets than more achievements. You have more sadness than happiness. You have nothing to be proud of. You have false limits in your head, limiting your life. All this kind of life is because you killed the child in you.

What if you had let live that beautiful and smart child in you? You would have lived the life to the fullest without false limits. You would have taken risks and opportunities without missing any. You would have lived a fortunate life without caring about others judgment. You would have done things that make you happy. You would have never said “not now” for anything in life.

You would have taken any risk to make your dreams come true. You would fail and learn from failures. You would never cry for failures. You would never wear different masks and lose yourself. You would have been just you not trying to become someone else by comparing. You would have been happy😊. You would have more accomplishments. You would have lived your life fully.

Your dreams and desires are real and they aren’t based on any calculation🖩 when you were a child. Purse those dreams and you will gain unlimited happiness. Never give up your childhood dreams, ever. They can keep your life in shape and can give you real happiness.

As a child, you slept well peacefully, not worrying about anything. But as a grown-up, you worry even unimportant things, which is bad for you.

What’s worse is you are teaching to kill the child in you to other generations too in the name of maturity and civilization and this is why many children, teens and youngsters are ending up living a false life where they are suffering and sad every day.

Childhood is most beautiful and you can’t stop losing it. But you can still allow the child to be alive in you by following the behaviour that you have in your childhood. Don’t forget your childhood memories and lessons that matters the most for a better life.

Bring the child in you to life to make your living so beautiful. Live with joy and love unconditionally like a child and make your life mesmerizing and wonderful.

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The Chess is an ancient game used by kings to plan tactics in war. Later it got popularity as a game which became famous all over the world. This game requires excellent thinking skills to make the right moves. The move you make decides whether you will win or lose in the game.

There are a lot of similarities between human life and the chess game if you observe and understand it carefully. There is a lot to learn from the chess game to live a better life.

How about learning chess today to learn the game of life? In human life, we all have to perform more than one character. Like one person moving all these chess pieces, you also have to make different moves by becoming different characters. Let’s start the game of life.

Even in human life, we all have to start small. From the basic level. Just like this pawn. At this basic level, you have less power, more limits but unlimited bravery to make the first move and to protect your kingdom (Family or business or Job)

When you are beginning in life, we have many chances like we have 8 pawns. We can make one move at a time. If we fail, you can start again with one more pawn. These basic moves teach us lessons for the next levels of our life.

After getting started you get a chance to take a new character with new rules but more power and bravery. Like the bishop, you can make the unlimited number of steps forward or backward in a diagonal path but if there are barriers in the path you can’t move forward but you can destroy these barriers. One barrier in one move.

Even though you have experience in one thing. You need to gain experience in other things, in life, and you have to start at a basic level again to learn a new skill. You can start as a pawn again.

Now after learning a new thing you can experience new power by becoming rook and you have the power to move forward, backward or side wise. Still, you don’t have the power to move over barriers but you can destroy one barrier in one move.

You can even take the knight character and move over pieces in L shape. You still have limits, but you have a new power, and you can destroy one barrier in one move.

Now you can take the character of the queen. Queen is so powerful than all characters like a woman in real life. You can move in all directions taking more than one step in one move and can kill one barrier in one move. You can’t move over other pieces.

Now you can be the king and move in all directions but in only single steps. You have limits, and you need to be protected to protect your kingdom. You can kill anything that stands before you. You have power and influence but limited power.

When you lose all your characters (your characteristics/behavioural traits you gained all your life) which makes you prone to death. That’s why you need to play well making the right moves and decisions in life to live long as a king.

If you lose your characters, assume you are nearing your death and you need to make right moves after thinking well or else it's Time for CHECKMATE. You are dead. Never lose yourself and make the right moves in life and live longer.

Never make the same moves in all the situations. Different situations in life need a different kind of power. Most people play blindly even in life without learning necessary rules and that’s how they fail.

Learn the rules and play well to win more in life. Even in life, we get different powers and different types of limits at different levels of life.

You have two choices. One is to play on both the sides of your life and make your own moves and have absolute control over your life or make moves based on others moves which may not give complete control over your life.

The others who are playing on the other side maybe your family, relatives or society. Whether you like it or not, most of the times there is someone playing on the other side. So you need to learn rules well and make your moves rightly and survive longer with joy and happiness.

“Make the right moves in life.”

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Poem: “IN LIFE….”

1.In Life…

There is good and there is bad.
There is happiness and there is sadness.
There is love and there is hate
There is success and there is a failure.

2. In Life…

There is a pleasure and there is suffering
There is admiration and there is criticism
There is disturbance and there is calmness
There is fear and there is courage.

3. In Life…

There is wisdom and there is foolishness.
There is honesty and there is dishonesty
There is richness and there is poverty
There is right and there is wrong.

4. In Life…

There is strength and there is weakness
There is creation and there is destruction
There is kindness and there is cruelty
There is intelligence and there is foolishness.

5. In Life…

There is confusion and there is clarity
There is friendship and there is enmity
There is trust and there is scepticism
There is excitement and there is boredom.

6. In Life…

There is relish and there is disgust
There is empathy and there is sympathy
There is horror and there is delight
There is acceptance and there is rejection.

7. In Life…

There is achievement and there is regret
There is satisfaction and there is dissatisfaction
There is living and there is acting
There is hope and there is despair.

8. In Life…

There is desire and there is undesire
There is selfishness and there is generosity
There is anger and there is pacification
There is mystery and there is overtness.

9. In Life…

There is laugh and there is cry
There is imagination and there is reality
There is truth and there is false
There is life and there is death.

In human life, there are always two opposite things. But only one has the power to dominate your life. The one you give more importance gains power and consumes all your life.

There is good and bad in life. If you give more importance to good in life, Good dominates the bad in you and gets control over your life and turns you into a good person and if you give importance to bad. Bad dominates the good in your life and gets control over your life, turning you into bad.

There is happiness and sadness. If you give more importance to happiness in your life, Happiness dominates the sadness and makes you stay happy. if you give more importance to sadness, it dominates happiness giving you a sad life.

This applies to all the things in human life. The importance you give to different things matters a lot in human life. Give importance to the right things in human life that build you into a better person. Stop giving importance to wrong things that destroy your life.

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“If you don’t act on your weaknesses, they take control over your life and turn it into a hell.”

Good people follow morals and values in their daily life but as time passes, they learn from the world that their morals and values don’t work much in real life. Some people still stick to their morals, and they suffer. Some people leave their morals and values and turn into bad people.

The reasons why good people are bad is:

They are abled than many: Good people have skills and patience, but they don’t take action in life and leave big things to the wrong people. Wrong people achieve success by doing big things in the wrong way.

It’s not their mistake. As there is less competition for big things, they choose to pursue them whereas good people stay silent without doing big things, which is why they are considered to be bad.

“It’s not the wrong people who do harm to this world. It’s the right people who stay silent without fighting against the wrong does more harm to this world.”

They want them to be known as good: They want everyone to know them as good for which they do everything. That everything includes bad things which make good people bad. Even though they know what is good they don’t do it all the time.

They follow the orders and requests of bad people and do wrong things too which is why they are bad in reality.

They wait for change: They wait for change that should happen in others, which won’t happen. They are the one who needs to change first.

They keep waiting, believing that others will change and therefore they stick to bad people in life but the painful truth is they turn into bad people like the ones they are spending their time with.

They give great attention to their fears: They feed their fears instead of fighting against bad. Good people think they may get into trouble and suffer so much. This fear makes them dwell and suffer.

Their fears are stronger than their confidence and convictions. This is why they are idle in their life.

They want to make everyone happy: They don’t want to hurt anyone, but they don’t know that they can’t make everyone happy. It’s true that you can’t make everyone happy in this world. If you are doing some good to someone you are doing bad to somebody else.

You can’t make everyone happy in this world. As you are trying to make everyone happy, you are becoming sad.

“Stop trying to make everyone happy. Do what is right, every time.”

They ignore risk: They fear risk and people who would laugh at them if they fail. They let their dreams die as they care about comfort and opinion of others more than the risk in life that could change their lives forever and bring happiness into life.

“Not taking a risk is the biggest risk.”

They act more and live less: They don’t want enmity with anyone and therefore they live acting more in life and they lose themselves and they lose interest in their lives.

They try to be good, even to bad people who just make use of these good people. These good people do wrong for the bad ones. This way they keep acting more in life than living more.

They want positivity: They expect good things from the world. They expect positive things and truth from the world where negativity and false filled more. Finally, they lose hope and self-control by realizing that the world is not full of positive and true people.

They are blind: They follow rules and regulations even though they aren’t proper and effective. They blindly follow everything as they believe in systems. They need to realize that not all systems are good. They follow beliefs which are old and outdated.

Instead, they have to break wrong systems, rules and regulations, if they want to make progress in life and grow into the right person.

They want to speak the truth: Even though they want to speak the truth, they won’t because of fear. Speaking truth is a good habit but their fear stops them and the same fear make them speak false in several instances.

They live someone else’s life: They care about others judgment and opinions because they are scared of losing people. They accept the judgment and false advice in several situations of their lives. They do things that lead to self-hatred. They listen to their friends, family and society noise who are actually failures and who did nothing great.

They tolerate shit: They accept everything in life that includes wrong and bad things that should not be tolerated at all. Even tolerance has some value and limits. You should not accept everything especially bad and wrong from anyone or anything.

As good people follow all these habits which affect them or others. They are considered to be bad. You may be wondering then how should we live without being good and bad. The answer is simple. Be right.

It doesn’t matter what you may go through. Be right all the time. This helps you stay in control and follow your ethics, morals and values. By being right, other people may suffer because of you and it’s alright. You need to remember that your right behaviour suffers bad people, not the right ones.

“Be right, do right and live right.”

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You were born wild and real.
You laughed and cried heart fully.
You enjoyed your life without limits.
You never feared falling.

You never gave up easily.
You never cared judgment of others
You never worried about anything.
You lived your life, not others life.

You are not scared of failures.
You loved unconditionally and smiled genuinely.
You aren’t scared of anything and anyone.
You took risks happily.

You never tried to escape anything.
You didn’t care about social barriers.
You didn’t follow false limits.
You never tried to impress anyone.

You were always happy
You were………. a Human being…..

Then everything changed suddenly when you grew up.

You are taught several things in life that turned you from being wild and real into domesticated and fake being.

You learnt to fake your laugh and cry.

You learnt different fears that limited your mental ability and growth.

You learnt to give up easily.

You cared judgment of others, even the people you don’t know.

You worried about everything and lived someone else’s life.

You learnt that you need to impress others to survive but forgot that you will lose self-respect and you will lose yourself forever.

You are scared of failures and risks in life because of which you never worked on your bigger dreams.

You loved conditionally and smiled, which is fake.

You are scared of everything and everyone and that’s why you tried to escape more in life than facing things.

You cared about social barriers and followed false rules and beliefs that are taught to you.

You are not always happy like before. You learnt to act more in life than living.

You were real before but you aren’t real now which tells that you are no more a human being but a programmed machine who work without thinking what is right and what is wrong in many instances.

You were a human being, but you aren’t a human being anymore.

All these things tell one thing………..You were born wild and real but you are tamed……..by this world.

“Be yourself. Be wild and that’s how you stay real and happy forever.”

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You are primitive at the beginning. You want to simplify your life more. So you installed civilization into this world.

You installed several programs (behaviours) in you. Even others installed several programs in you. You made life easy. But what about happiness?

You tried to install new things in your life to simplify your life, but you made it complex and unhappy.

You started running different programs in different places with different people and in different situations.

When you are alone, you are different. You think differently, eat differently and act differently.

When you are with someone, you are different. You think differently and act differently.

When you are at a party, you run the party program and therefore you maintain certain behaviour and use different body language and use a different way of communication.

When you are with family, you run a family program. You talk to family in the way they like and you act in a way they know. You are a different person here again.

This way you run different programs in different ways and act differently in different situations.

You also allowed others and situations to install the malware (negativity) in you that made your life more prone to problems and sadness.

As you ran different programs in different instances, nobody knows which type of program really you are. The sad part is you also forgot who you really are.

You got comfortable running different programs that represent different behaviours. Even it became a rule that you need to follow different behaviours at different places.

These rules applied even to most basic things in life. You dress differently for different occasions. You eat differently at different places. You act differently with different people.

This conditioned lifestyle brought even a great threat and harm to human feelings and behaviour. Nowadays most people are installing harmful programs. They are harmful because they are fake.

You started installing fake smile on your face. You started speaking one thing externally and speaking something else internally. You installed the ego and jealously program that isn’t expressed.

You installed fake love programs to gain pleasures. You installed cheat others programs to get things fast and easily in life. You installed malicious thoughts program where you always tried to harm others.

You also installed several programs that are in incognito which are harmful and you never had attention to, in you.

The main reason why you started installing and running programs is, you want to make life more easy and beautiful. But the truth is different and is painful.

In the process, you installed several fake, useless and harmful programs in you that exploited your proper working. This lead to a complex life where you are dominated by harmful programs that made you experience pain and suffering more in your life.

This life is too short. If you keep acting in the name of improvising life, you are harming yourself. You are spoiling your life to a greater extent. You need to realise this at least now before it becomes too late.

Stop running different programs in you and start uninstalling the programs and malware that are spoiling your life.

Be free from all the programs that made you lose you and become primitive again to simplify your life.

Once you get primitive by uninstalling all these programs from you, you become primitive and simple again, where you live naturally. Where you live genuinely. Where you smile with heart.

Where you will be grateful to even small things you got in your life. Where morals and values give power to humanity. Where you act more kindly. Where you just live as you without worrying about anything.

Where you will be a wise and happy person, 🦉. Where you are not greedy. Where real growth happens by growing together. Where you don’t lose yourself. Where you have REAL VALUE for human life.

Where you live without fears. Where you grow mentally into a better person🧠. Where happiness is forever. Where humanity is superior over every difference that separates us from us.

Become primitive again and live your life as you not someone else you don’t know.

Remember: Don’t become a stranger to yourself. That hurts more than anything. 💔

Happy Uninstalling… 😇

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You become whom you follow. You become with whom you spend more time. You become what your thoughts make you. You need to stop following anyone blindly. You have to believe in you more than somebody else.

You need to spend time with the right people. Your time is more valuable than anything. Once you lose time that you spent on others, you will never get it back.

Let me tell you an instance. I was travelling on a train and I saw that the train is completely full and there are no vacant seats. In the next station, an old lady got into the train and standing like everyone.

There is a young man sitting near the seat where this old lady is standing. What would you think? You would think that man should give her the seat and he should stand, which shows that he is respectful to the old woman and you may feel it's a duty of any human.

Some guy in the coach thought the same as you and asked the young man to get up and give her his seat. The young man didn't reply at all. He silently sat without responding, and this may be rude.

Now suddenly everybody near him started yelling at the young man to give the seat to the old lady. Even the old lady started shouting at him. He was still silent and didn't respond. Now someone from the back came forward and picked up the young man from the seat and the young man fell there.

Now that man left the young man on the floor and moved away and even the old woman and other people who are shouting left aside and faced the other side of that young man. What would have happened suddenly?

The young man who fell is deaf, and he is handicapped. His legs are covered with a cloth when he sat. But when everyone saw that when he fell. They didn't help him. Instead, they left silently, which shows their dumbness.

Some dumb guy started this nonsense and now the guy who is already suffering because his disability has to suffer the foolishness and rudeness of others.

Not even one person who shouted at him said sorry for him. All were silent. These people commit several mistakes in their everyday life. But they never correct them. That's how they got habituated.

One dumb person started the whole drama, and they followed him, trying to prove themselves as good even though the truth is different. Remember that these dumb people don’t want to change the world. They want to show off themselves as good and they try to build authority.

Even in this modern world, there is a lot of noise from many dumb people. You call many of them by name influencers or something. It’s true that they are influencers but not inspirational leaders.

“You can’t change anyone’s life by influencing them. You change them by inspiring them.” Influencers gain success so fast, but inspirational leaders don’t gain the success that easily.

You shouldn't force or influence someone to be right. They should learn and feel that they should live a rightful life. Kindness can’t be taught forcibly. It’s a natural feeling that has to rise in the heart of people.

Even you really want to make a difference in this world. Stop following dumb people.

Stop influencing others and start inspiring others by your actions rather than words. 

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Fear of diffidence: Have the fear of diffidence. Never self doubt and feel shy and don’t lose self-confidence. Your confidence helps you grow and take decisions that are effective. This same confidence allows you to take risks and move forward in life.

Without confidence you are nothing. Grow confidence in you and believe in everything you do. Believe in your ideas and actions. Believe in yourself more than anything. Believe you can do anything.

Such belief destroys diffidence in you and helps you gain self-control and self-awareness that builds self-confidence in you.

“Confidence builds you and diffidence exploits you.”

Fear of limited life: Remember that you have a very short life and if you think you have time. Think again. Time flies and you will never get it back. You need to have the fear of limited time you got.

Your life may not be enough to accomplish all your goals. Therefore, stop procrastinating and pursue your dreams with no more waiting and stop spending time on small ideas or goals. Focus on big goals.

“You have a short life. Live it to the fullest.”

Fear of not impressing self: It’s hard to impress yourself than impressing others and that’s why you impress others as it is easy. But this way you are doing self-harm.

By trying to impress others, you are living your life in the way others want and your actions are purely based on others judgment. This way, you are losing yourself and this loss may be permanent which will exploit your life.

You need to have the fear of losing yourself. Stop impressing others and start impressing yourself, which helps you live a fulfilled life. Be yourself and live the way you love.

“Impress yourself and that’s how you fall in love with yourself more deeply.”

Fear of regret: Regrets are more painful. They are painful than failures and quitting. You may not take risks in life because of your fears. But not taking a risk is the biggest risk.

If you take the risk, you may fail, but if you don’t take the risk, you will regret which is worse than failure. You need to take risks. You need to experiment with different things.

This life is short and if you keep thinking without working on your goals, you will regret your life. Have the fear of regret as it hurts you so much than anything in your ending days.

“It’s better to have failures than regrets in life.”

Fear of doing wrong: It may not be possible to be good all the time, but it’s possible to be right all the time. Most people by trying to be good to everyone, they break their morals and values and they lose their character by committing wrong to be called as good by others.

In the process, they forgot that they are becoming worse instead of good. Don’t get into such condition. People will hate you for being right, but the respect in them for you is huge.

They unconsciously like you so much. Be right all the time, even though it brings you new enemies and problems. Being right helps you maximize self-respect, which is very important for a joyful life.

“Be right all the time.” 

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Even though people know they hate their lives if they lose character. They keep losing their character by compromising their entire life. They live a life they hate and they become the living dead.

These are ways that will tell you that you are losing your character or lost your character already.

Don’t respond to wrong: You know that many things happen around us. Even the wrong things happen around us every day. But do you respond? Most people look at the wrong things and they don’t respond at all.

They move away from that place, ignoring the wrong things. Even though subconsciously they want to respond and fix the wrong things. They don’t do it because of their fears. If you are doing the same thing, you will feel guilty that makes you lose your character soon.

Lose your self-respect: Everyone of you wants self-respect. Nobody likes to be treated unwell. But many are giving up their self-respect to reach higher positions or to escape from their mistakes or for some other reasons. The more you do the wrong things in life, the more self-respect you lose.

Give away your control: Self-control and self-awareness help you grow into a better person. Give up that self-control and you become worse every day. You are controlled by people, things and situations around you. Once you lose self-control, you will lose your character and yourself too.

Follow others' judgment: Most people live their lives based on others opinion and judgment. They don’t have individuality. They incline to others advice all the time. They don’t make decisions on their own.

They rely on others for most things. They live someone else’s life by caring what others think about them and live a life that’s not theirs and soon they lose themselves.

Keep impressing others: Impressing is a fake behaviour. When you try to impress others, you act like someone else rather than you. In the process of impressing others to gain something in return from them, you do horrible things that you never expected from yourself, ever.

This way you will lose your character by becoming someone else and trying to gain things in a wrong way.

Kill your passions: Passions keep your soul alive. You may have Passions that you gave up. You may have given up on them to prevent risks and gain comfort in your life.

But this way you are killing your soul and you are living a dead life where there is no enthusiasm and interest and there is only suffering and regret every day.

Forget morals and values: You can see many people giving up their values and morals as they feel that they won’t work in real life. With such feeling, they gave up their right thinking, and they became greedy.

This way they started doing everything and they don’t care whether or not it affects others. They are completely selfish, and they do things for their own profit.

Morals and values give calmness to your soul and if you lose them your life will become a great confusion in which you will lose yourself.

Live like the dead: Stop reacting. Stop living. Stop thinking. Do nothing different from others. Live like most people and suffer like most people. Go with the flow of life without caring for anything.

Live by following the herd blindly. Live your life like many. Don’t care about making a difference and just live like the dead.

By following the habits, you can easily lose your character in no time. Maybe most of you already are following these habits. Now it’s your turn to decide what to choose. But choose wisely.

Happy losing… 

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Keep loving wherever they may be: You may be living with a false assumption that if someone you love is far away from you, the love decreases in both of you. But this is not true at all.

Distance relationships feel uneven and inconvenient, but if you maintain them well, they bring you happiness. There are some simple and effective ways to maintain distance relationships that help you live a joyful life together.

Your trust matters the most: Trust is what you need to develop in each other. Trust helps you understand each other better. Trust helps you overcome false assumptions and perceptions you grew on each other.

Grow trust in each other and never break this trust irrespective of any situation you may face in your life. Once your trust is broken, you can never have a strong relation whether it may be a distance relationship or close relationship.

Give them freedom: The secret to a happy relationship is freedom. Most people try to gain control over each other, which is about taking away freedom. This leads to spoilage of relationships and brings sadness and pain.

It's important to give freedom to the person you love. Let them do what they want. Let them fly with their own thoughts. Don’t try to put them on the ground with your restrictions and this improves your relationship and make it stronger.

Avoid intemperate communication: Too much of anything is bad. Communication helps you understand each other well. But Excessive communication brings you boredom and makes your communication with each other boring.

Have a regular time to communicate. It may be through chat, call or other ways of communication. This helps you spend time with your loved ones with no distractions from your work.

Minimise your expectations: Expectations are the reason many people become sad in relationships. The more you expect from others, the more you get suffering in life. It’s advisable to minimize your expectations on others.

You may expect the other person you love to change their behaviour, habits or other things from them. The person you expect from may not meet your expectations as your both lives differ from each other. Stop expecting and start accepting others the way they are.

Communicate openly every day: It’s very important to communicate openly, to build a strong understanding. You may be communicating with the one you love every day, but the important thing to do is communicate openly by sharing everything.

Hide nothing. Share your good and bad. Most people show their good to impress and conceal their bad. But don’t do this. Communicate even your bad to others and if they understand your bad and still stays with you, they will stay longer and forever with you.

Use technology well: Technology is playing a significant role in maintaining distance relationships well. Many of you may use continuous chat to communicate, but it’s not effective in many cases.

It’s better to communicate through video calls and voice calls as they make you feel better while communicating. You will be able to see and listen to the other person and feel their expressions.

Meet often: Even though you are communicating every day to each other, it’s not effective as a meeting. Meet your loved ones whenever possible. Give surprise visits. Travel to places and spend time and make memories.

Don’t ignore any meetings. Don’t break the scheduled meetings. How busy you may be. Always have time to meet and make memories that last forever.

Stay honest: Honesty is very important in any relationship. It doesn’t matter how hard it may be. Never lie about anything. Share the truth and accept your mistakes.

Promise that you will not repeat such mistakes and keep your promises. Stay honest all the time in all the situations with your loved ones.

Understand each other's priorities: Everyone has their own priorities. Understanding priorities is very important. You may be the priority to the other person but don’t expect only you to be the priority.

There are several priorities in human life. No one has just one priority. The priority may be a goal or a dream. Let them work and fulfil their dreams. Understanding priorities helps you fall in deep love more with each other.

Show care: Caring is very important in any relationship. Care your loved ones by giving what they want. Don’t wait for them to ask what they want. Know what they want and help them in all situations.

Care for them by helping them in all works and give them your time and advice and help them face and forgot their problems and make them feel that you are there to support them in any situation.

Pay attention and listen: Listening is very important in building a relationship. Be an active listener. Listen to every small thing. Don’t feel irritated.

Pay attention to them all the time. Pay attention to even minor things in their life and be with them all the time. Say that you love them every time you speak to them.

Praise for every minor thing: Give a compliment to every small thing. It may be anything. Don’t give fake compliments. Give them genuine compliments. Your compliments help them feel better and this strengthens your relationship. 

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She was so patient and gave herself to build us. But we forgot that we are nothing without her. We wounded and suffered her, and she still withstood the pain but never showed her anger that easily.

She loves us unconditionally, and we loved her conditionally and we are very fortunate to get such love which is pure. Be thankful for such love. 

Dear mother Earth, I am sorry.

I am sorry on behalf of every human being on this planet.

I am sorry for the pain and suffering we caused.

I am sorry for the destruction we did for you, for our comforts.

I am sorry for our greedy nature that exploited you.

I am sorry for the fake love we showed upon you to use you. But you still loved us unconditionally.

I am sorry for the foolishness of whole mankind.

I am sorry for the disturbance we caused in the name of human development.

I am sorry for the evolvement that happened against you.

I am sorry for poisoning you. We filled you with chemicals, poisonous substances and several other harmful substances.

I am sorry for converting the beautiful you to very ugly. We filled the land with garbage everywhere.

I am sorry for destroying greenery that rejuvenated you every day.

I am sorry for polluting the liquids that flow in you.

I am sorry for polluting the fresh air that you breathe and you gave us to breathe, and which helped us survive.

I am sorry for killing your children, in the name of ownership and superiority of human.

I am sorry for the disability we caused you.

I am sorry for the ignorance of mankind that brought you to the death stage.

I am sorry for the harm we caused even though you helped us in everyday life.

I am sorry for the wounds we caused that never get healed.

I am sorry for the enormous pain that suffered you so much.

I am sorry for the human selfishness that made you lose hope.

I am sorry for piercing your heart and for making it bleed. We drank the blood of you like hungry demons forgetting that we are human.

I am sorry for forgetting the morals and values and the humanity you taught us, to live happily.

I am sorry for not taking care of you even though you took great care of us all the time.

I am sorry for the struggles we created for you.

I am sorry for the unhappiness that we spread around you.

I am sorry for killing the friends that you gave us with enormous love.

I am sorry for not being grateful for what you did for us.

Saying sorry doesn’t change anything that we caused you. We feel guilty and sorry, but we never changed.

We kept exploiting you for our use. We used you completely. We never loved you back. We never cared for you. We never felt that you are important. You were treated really unwell by mankind.

You still gave us everything. You never stopped loving us. You never stopped caring for us. You never stopped helping us. You treated us greatly. You gave us a splendid life. You nourished us every day. You never stopped showing kindness over us, even though we acted so cruelly. Still, we didn’t change.

Since birth, you are with us. You helped us in growth. You even dissolved us in you when we are dead. Your love for every organism is so pure and unconditional. You are really amazing but I am sorry we never changed.

We think that you are foolish as you are still helping us. But your laugh tells that we are foolish, as we kept destroying what is making us survive.

We may not know our foolishness now. But soon your absence makes us feel and suffer. We will regret our lives for what we did. This regret is permanent and very painful, and that’s the best punishment we get for our deeds.

Dear mother Earth, I am extremely sorry again. 

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These are some top lessons that you need to understand and make use of them in your life to prevent suffering and become wise enough to handle any relationship failures that may happen in your life. 

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An interesting life helps you do more and live more. It helps you spread happiness and joy around you. It gives hope to you and others. It helps you conquer your suffering. It helps you live a life of fulfillment. So the question is, how to make life interesting?

These are a few ways that work well to make your life not only interesting but also these ways teach you the experiences and lessons for a happy and wise life. Follow these simple ways and have fun. 

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In Hinduism, the dead body, or death or burial ground is treated as inauspicious. So you are not allowed to attend any funerals if you don’t know the dead ones very well. However, we can attend these funerals secretly. Such instance taught universal lessons for life.

We all celebrate the day we are born. We celebrated the day we are born every year. But you need to understand that even death should be celebrated more than your birthday. Your birthdays come and go, but death comes once and gives you freedom forever.

Mortality is not a curse, but it’s a glorious gift. This gift frees you from all attachments, greed, pain, suffering, and worries. No one wants to die and everyone wants to live forever. But this won’t happen. Human advancements in science and technology created pain relievers, but they didn’t overcome death. This death is a common destination for all of us.

Everyone knows about death but everyone lives by ignoring the truth and this is a gift and a curse. Ignoring that you will die is a curse if you are wasting the time in dwelling and suffering in life. Ignoring that you will die is a boon if you are making use of your time well.

These lessons are the ultimate truths which by realizing will change your perception of life and make you think about your life again.

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The advent of smartphones made it easy for many to access social media and these social media follows a reward system that is when you are rewarded with something you feel good because of dopamine released in your body. Such good feeling takes you back to social media again and again and makes you addicted. It acts just like a drug where you will lose control over yourself.

This social media which is virtual and unreal that became a part of life where people started not only using it more but believing it so much even though it’s harmful. But they aren’t ready to accept the truth because of their addiction.

The invention of social media made it possible to communicate easily, but it also brought several problems to mankind. Social media addiction is the reason you are considered as a slave to it. This social media dominates you and affects you in several ways.

It takes away your valuable time: Your addiction for social media makes you spend more time on it, and this makes you lose your valuable time. Instead of using your time well on things that matter, you will spend it on social media watching everything that comes in your social feed.

You are also bombarded with several ads that are intelligently tailored for you by accessing your demographics and psychographic. This makes you buy things even though you don’t need them and make you lose your money too.

It fills your mind with clutter: Social media is filled with so much information. When your addiction is too much, you keep filling your mind with all the useless information which makes your mind a trash bin.

This results in damage to your thinking and analyzing process and makes you live in confusion all the time. You will have knowledge that's useless. Your mental health gets disturbed as you are filling your mind with too much information along with the junk.

It makes you feel anxious and fills you with worry: This social media addiction can make you feel anxious. Just remember the last time you got a notification on your phone saying someone like your post or commented on your post. I hope you felt anxious and opened your account to look who liked it and what is the comment.

This is the reward system for the social media implemented in its algorithm to make you addicted, and that’s how they make money and make you lose your money and time. This anxiousness makes you feel good when rewarded and then leads to expectations in you for more likes and comments where you will be disappointed when you don’t meet expectations.

This way your mind wants others to like you and you start doing things that you never want to do. You start trying to impress others which may make you lose yourself and put in in worry mode.

It corrupts your belief system: You believe everything about someone’s life, which is mostly a lie on social media. But you never believe someone who did great in reality. This is sad. You can’t appreciate someone in reality, but you care about someone in virtuality.

Whatever you see on social media isn’t true. Social media platforms are the channels where fake success and achievements are shared more to make people believe that they are successful even though they are not.

It isolates you: You share more on social media, but you share less when people are with you. You chat for hours on social media, but when you meet them, you won’t even talk properly. Your direct communication gets damaged.

Even though you are with your family and friends you still feel alone because you keep spending time on social media on your phone or laptop. Even most times you find that others using the phone.

When you really talk to others directly, it’s different. You really share and you really care. When you meet someone next time try spending time just with them not with your phone and see how amazing you can build strong connections.

This social media addiction is evil. Use social media in a limited way for limited purposes. Don’t get so addicted to it. Don’t care for likes and followers. Don’t care for fake news. Don’t compare with others' lives on social media.

Just use it to find some pleasant news and information. Use it to communicate with the ones who are on interminable distances but make sure you communicate less. Turn off your notifications and uninstall the apps that are taking away your time.

Make sure you dominate social media and don’t allow it to control you. Use social media when needed and make sure you are not using it too much and here is a final tip: Never use your phone for social media when you wake up and make sure you put your phone aside at least before an hour before you sleep. 

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